Go on, check, I got a moment. Are you happy? Does it match your ego or do you need an enlargement? I hope you aren’t getting this twisted. See, I’m not referring to a dangling physical organ that’s only good for piss and sex. I’m referring to how closely you match God’s definition of a man, especially when you have a woman in your life. That’s what manhood really is.
Picture a scenario where you set an exam for a primary 4 class you teach. It’s that exam that will indicate which student is smart and which isn’t. At break, your kids decide that if they’re going to base their sense of intelligence on your exam, it’ll mean too much work. But they still want to be intelligent (or seen as that), so they set their own exam with tests like “whose piss can reach farthest? Whose pen has the most ink? Whose exercise book has the most leaves? Whose school bag has the most zips?” In the end, the most intelligent boy in the room is nothing more than the one with the most things, and the unfortunate smart kid starts feeling stupid.
That’s how we are, you and I. We redefine standards, so we can qualify. We redefine what it means to be a Godly guy, so we can screw around and still sing in the choir without hurting our conscience. We redefine what it means to be a good husband so we can disrespect our wives and still feel like God’s gift to women. In the end, the most ‘manly’ man in the room becomes nothing more than the most prolific sex machine.
You see, the most important nature of a real man, is how good a spiritual cover he is over his girlfriend, over his wife (not concurrently though) and his family. Being a boyfriend is more of a spiritual situation than a romantic one. Because unspiritualized romance is ripe for carnal exploits.
You should be the reason your girlfriend ends up in heaven and not beneath it. You should stop groping and start clasping your hands together. You should stop inserting your fingers and start inserting memory verses inside your memory. You should stop licking and start liking to pray together. The sound of tapping hands should evoke no other image than a praise session. Because there’s no ‘condomnization’ for those who are born again in Christ Jesus!
Don’t measure your manhood in inches, measure it in spiritual depth and maturity. Hear from God concerning her. Advice her on the basis of what God’s revealed to you, not what the boys think. Be the reason why shallow, vain friends begin to avoid her. That’s what manhood is all about bro. You and I, we’ve both gotten it twisted.
We’ve been told that if we don’t f*ck our women well, better bigger men would do it for us. We’ve been told that if we can’t make women cum, we can’t come to the table of men. We’ve been told to focus on our abs and arms, who cares about the heart? We’ve been told that only pussies screwed one woman. To be a real man, you need to ‘dig’ several ‘holes’. If you’re too spirito, she’ll leave you for some bad boy. I’m sorry bro, we’ve been tricked. It’s not true, not a word of it.
If God is at the center of your love, she’ll love and find more happiness with an impotent you than with a porn star. If she leaves you for some bad boy because you were too Crife (Crife o, not dollu), then she didn’t leave, it’s the darkness in her that couldn’t take the light in you. Be flattered. You can’t keep her with your cum. She won’t really be yours; you’ll be sharing her with your weakness and the darkness inside of you.
So my guy, do something different today. Don’t entertain conversations that carnalize manhood. Guys talking about their scores and new meats. Sever your ties with those kind of things. Then talk to God about your relationship. Let him impress on you what it means to be ‘big’. It’s baby steps, but in a while, you’ll become a crucial example to all the other guys who look up to you. That’s what being a man is really about. Let’s do this!
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