How ‘BIG’ Are You ;-/

how bigGo on, check, I got a moment. Are you happy? Does it match your ego or do you need an enlargement? I hope you aren’t getting this twisted. See, I’m not referring to a dangling physical organ that’s only good for piss and sex. I’m referring to how closely you match God’s definition of a man, especially when you have a woman in your life. That’s what manhood really is.

Picture a scenario where you set an exam for a primary 4 class you teach. It’s that exam that will indicate which student is smart and which isn’t. At break, your kids decide that if they’re going to base their sense of intelligence on your exam, it’ll mean too much work. But they still want to be intelligent (or seen as that), so they set their own exam with tests like “whose piss can reach farthest? Whose pen has the most ink? Whose exercise book has the most leaves? Whose school bag has the most zips?” In the end, the most intelligent boy in the room is nothing more than the one with the most things, and the unfortunate smart kid starts feeling stupid.

That’s how we are, you and I. We redefine standards, so we can qualify. We redefine what it means to be a Godly guy, so we can screw around and still sing in the choir without hurting our conscience. We redefine what it means to be a good husband so we can disrespect our wives and still feel like God’s gift to women. In the end, the most ‘manly’ man in the room becomes nothing more than the most prolific sex machine.

You see, the most important nature of a real man, is how good a spiritual cover he is over his girlfriend, over his wife (not concurrently though) and his family. Being a boyfriend is more of a spiritual situation than a romantic one. Because unspiritualized romance is ripe for carnal exploits.

You should be the reason your girlfriend ends up in heaven and not beneath it. You should stop groping and start clasping your hands together. You should stop inserting your fingers and start inserting memory verses inside your memory. You should stop licking and start liking to pray together. The sound of tapping hands should evoke no other image than a praise session. Because there’s no ‘condomnization’ for those who are born again in Christ Jesus!

Don’t measure your manhood in inches, measure it in spiritual depth and maturity. Hear from God concerning her. Advice her on the basis of what God’s revealed to you, not what the boys think. Be the reason why shallow, vain friends begin to avoid her. That’s what manhood is all about bro. You and I, we’ve both gotten it twisted.

We’ve been told that if we don’t f*ck our women well, better bigger men would do it for us. We’ve been told that if we can’t make women cum, we can’t come to the table of men. We’ve been told to focus on our abs and arms, who cares about the heart? We’ve been told that only pussies screwed one woman. To be a real man, you need to ‘dig’ several ‘holes’. If you’re too spirito, she’ll leave you for some bad boy. I’m sorry bro, we’ve been tricked. It’s not true, not a word of it.

If God is at the center of your love, she’ll love and find more happiness with an impotent you than with a porn star. If she leaves you for some bad boy because you were too Crife (Crife o, not dollu), then she didn’t leave, it’s the darkness in her that couldn’t take the light in you. Be flattered. You can’t keep her with your cum. She won’t really be yours; you’ll be sharing her with your weakness and the darkness inside of you.

So my guy, do something different today. Don’t entertain conversations that carnalize manhood. Guys talking about their scores and new meats. Sever your ties with those kind of things. Then talk to God about your relationship. Let him impress on you what it means to be ‘big’. It’s baby steps, but in a while, you’ll become a crucial example to all the other guys who look up to you. That’s what being a man is really about. Let’s do this!

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33 Comments

  1. E C Gerd said:

    I just read like 10 posts already. Am mind blown. Every. Single. Time. Keep it up. You are saving peeps withe these write ups!

    August 9, 2016
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  2. Qweque said:

    Really amazing! Nice job done

    June 3, 2016
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  3. Maurice said:

    this is awesome. Great write up. Big ups.

    February 22, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Heyyy Maurice, thanks for writing! ‘see’ you around more often.

      February 23, 2015
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  4. nina said:

    Seriously Ben, please publish this out there, like a documentary or something, while you’re at it, please add that my God is the author of romance because he wooed the world to himself, he will teach that aspect to the guys if only they will be humble enough to ask. We forget that God cares about our relationships with people too. I have no problem submitting to a man humble enough to allow God teach him to be my cover because i just as well choose to Submit to Jesus….Bless you dear, its time the men be men by rising up to take their God given positions in God.

    April 9, 2014
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    • BenJ said:

      Wow. I should cut this and begin the entire post with it. True depth Nina, does China do that? 🙂

      April 17, 2014
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  5. naana said:

    I like. well i always do. more blessings!

    April 8, 2014
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    • BenJ said:

      Amen dear 🙂

      April 17, 2014
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  6. Oseyda said:

    This is really a good piece. Thumbs up 🙂

    April 8, 2014
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    • BenJ said:

      Thank you Oseyda. I’m glad you loved it.

      April 17, 2014
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  7. Baaba said:

    Thanks again, Ben, sometimes the best way to deliver a message is to say it in its raw form, and not dress it up with euphemisms. God bless you

    April 5, 2014
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    • BenJ said:

      Aaammmeen Baabbs! Amen.

      April 6, 2014
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  8. Nathalie said:

    God bless u Ben, this generation needs more of this, not politics and how screwed the economy is. If we have more strong spiritual families, one coporate prayer will heal our land, cos the family which starts from a mere relationship is the bed rock of every nation. Shalom

    April 4, 2014
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    • BenJ said:

      I totally agree with you Nathalie, totally! Hope everyone we care about gets to read this and think same. 🙂

      April 5, 2014
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  9. Sena Berdie said:

    The whole “truth” and nothing but the truth.

    April 4, 2014
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    • BenJ said:

      Lol, my learned colleague. How succinctly put!

      April 5, 2014
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  10. Sharon said:

    Amen brother!

    April 3, 2014
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  11. Mirabel Armah said:

    Awesome…. keep it up bro

    April 3, 2014
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    • BenJ said:

      When you make these once-in-ages comments Mirabel, it gets easier for me to keep at it 🙂 More of ’em!

      April 5, 2014
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  12. dziedzorm said:

    Every guy shld read this piece….
    n linking it with d primary 4 kids bit…..dat was 1 hilarious but true picture of wat actually happens in our adult lives.
    Filing it for my archives. A must-read for the boo!

    April 3, 2014
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    • dziedzorm said:

      God bless goldinwords

      April 3, 2014
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      • BenJ said:

        Aammmeennn! You have no idea how often I cash in on your blessings. More of them Dzorm. So glad you’re Goldinized now.

        April 5, 2014
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    • BenJ said:

      I agree with you Dzorm. I guess that means we need to do a lot to get this viral, wont you say?

      April 5, 2014
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      • dziedzorm said:

        You bet! 🙂

        April 6, 2014
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  13. Jade said:

    Very constructive. Good job

    April 3, 2014
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    • BenJ said:

      Thank you Jade. Been ages!

      April 5, 2014
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  14. Samuel said:

    Amen brother, Amen…. Preach on Pastor. Blessed to be taught by u

    April 3, 2014
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    • BenJ said:

      It’s all God Samuel, none of me. But blessed by your blessedness. Let’s get this viral!

      April 5, 2014
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  15. Matthew said:

    So touching…A rare sermon in a contemporary tone…I love it my Broda……inspiration from Lone Star I guess…on point, spot on..super!!

    April 3, 2014
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    • BenJ said:

      Thank you Matthew, I don’t take this lightly at all. lol, na God do am, Lone Star provided the needed serene and plush ambiance 😉 hihihi

      April 3, 2014
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  16. Nana Aba said:

    As always, perfection…. Very good one there sir!

    April 3, 2014
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    • BenJ said:

      It’s God Aba. He don do am again! 😉

      April 3, 2014
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