A Virgin In Love -By Nana Yaa A. Gyamfi

I confess, the header is my idea, our guest writer -Nana Yaa- had a more…uhmm subtle option. Beg her to forgive me :-). I think this piece is timeless and phenomenal. It’s coming from so deep within. You don’t even need to speak English to like it, heck it could even make a monolingual Chinese man smile. It beautifully surmises how women feel in love -from a woman’s perspective. I  dare you not to love it. N-Ya, tell ’em.

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This is one of my ‘private poems’; but I want to share it because I’ve been blessed by it at a time I’ve been pretty muddled up. I pray it helps at least one other person as it has me:



Here we are: involved in not being involved

Trying to keep the lines neat and straight;

To grow in friendship as romance evolves

And we become each other’s soulmate.

Here we are: taking the less-travelled road

Courting Agape, resisting Eros

Allowing commitment to unfold

Guarding our hearts like a fragile rose.

love maze

Some days, I struggle to tame the passion

Thoughts of him ignite in me

And I do hardly anything but imagine

How beautiful our union will someday be.

Some days, I think of the roles we’ll play:

Spouse, co-parent, companion, partner

And in my daydreams, we’re always having a good day:

Comfy, content; lots of kisses and laughter.


Then there are days my mind is saddled with doubt

And I ponder: Lord, is he really the one?

What if one day, I find out

I’m formed from the rib of a different man?

There are days when the most negligible things

Seem like mountains in my eyes:

Are these warning signs? Am I ignoring

Your verdict written in black and white?

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Round and round the voices fly

Taunting; tearing at my peace of mind

But I stop to hear the Still, Small One

Who offers not advice, but restful calm.

I stop to listen for the Breeze

That blows in crystal clarity

And it brings me here: to my knees;

Away from doubt- and fantasy.

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It’s here You say: “Peace, be still

I work in you to do and to will.

I do the leading, you do the heeding;

Surrender your heart, I’ll do the weeding.

I’ll school you on loving and being lovable

I’ll lead you into truth; the myths unravel.

You’ll discern a man’s character, not his estate

As your virtue grows and vanity dissipates.

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I’ll teach you to search a man’s heart, not his hand

I’ll make looks dim, charisma bland.

I’ll adjust your premium on faithfulness and honesty

And make prayerfulness irresistibly sexy.

Child, I’ll remake you so it’s simple:

Your heart will race for one locked in My temple…


See, in the end, it’s you who’ll decide

Whose ribcage you will fit inside

So let Me show you what to look for;

And teach you to hold on in times of war

Cause love is not just about the good days;

But it shouldn’t be something hardships erase.

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Even in turmoil, love is a choice:

Love is dancing in spite of the noise

Of what he isn’t and what he doesn’t;

Once you make vows, break them you mustn’t.

So for now, grow in friendship while I transform you

Into one who loves perfectly; fearlessly- as I do.

Copyright (c) 2012, Nana Yaa A. Gyamfi

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  1. Nana Yaa Serwaa said:

    Beautiful piece
    May God make me as such.

    August 17, 2015
  2. Nana Yaa Asantewaa said:

    this is lovely. Lord make me as lovely

    June 2, 2015
  3. Elise said:

    Really lovely….. 🙂

    December 10, 2014
  4. nife said:

    *sighing and in deep thought*…. Bless you Nana Yaa

    October 30, 2014
  5. Laud Owura said:

    Good piece. N-Ya as usual.

    August 24, 2014
  6. A.B said:

    It seems I’m a bit late..I recently stumbled on your blog and I must say it’s one of my favourites now. Keep up with the good work
    P.S. and to the writer of this piece, God bless you. This spoke volumes to me

    August 22, 2014
    • BenJ said:

      You’ve been too long coming A.B! Glad you’re finally here though. Looking forward to seeing you around more often. #doing excited dance#

      August 23, 2014
  7. nina said:

    normally i can go goo..goo and gaa- gaa about a piece of work, but this is simply one that i must sigh, ponder over and prayerfully take to heart. Ben.. worldwide post please!!!!!
    PS: please don’t strangle the dude, i love the title…and im sure u can find other sneaky ways to get him 🙂

    February 13, 2014
    • BenJ said:

      O my darling Nina, how much you make me smile! God bless you endlessly!

      February 13, 2014
  8. judah said:

    deep n beautiful truth……does speak to our hearts n minds

    February 7, 2014
  9. Elms said:

    this is just beautiful,,,,perfectly describes what state I am going through at the moment…brought tears into my eyes…keep it up!!!

    February 5, 2014
  10. Sua said:

    Wow! Speechless…words echoing and resonating within me..wowzer

    February 4, 2014
  11. Akos said:

    Love it, Nana Yaa!

    February 4, 2014
  12. Kwaku said:

    Interesting style….Very bold…..I must say

    February 4, 2014
  13. Aisha Adam said:

    Deep poem

    February 4, 2014
  14. kobby said:

    Beautiful piece. Wonderful!!!!

    February 3, 2014
  15. Nana Yaa A. Gyamfi said:

    Thanks, everyone! I’m still cringing at the header, still toying with the idea of strangling a man called Anyan. Glad you enjoyed it. I appreciate the encouragement 🙂

    February 3, 2014
  16. Emmanuel said:


    February 2, 2014
  17. Priscilla said:


    February 1, 2014
  18. Samuel said:

    This is awesome and I have been blessed. Speaks to the heart

    January 31, 2014
  19. Sharon said:

    Wow 🙂 Awesome! Thumbs up Nana Yaa #you’reblessed

    January 31, 2014
  20. Kwame said:


    January 31, 2014

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