How I Met My Wife

I’m not that tall, but when I stand on my lyrics, you lie baadd! I can give you vibes aaah, you’ll have to tip toe to reach my shoulder. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve heard people say “Eiiii you thhiiissss bbooyy! I cant wait to see who you end up marrying!” So many people said it that I started getting really curious myself…and a little worried too; who was I going to end up marrying?

I’m told I have a sense of humour, and gorgeous women love men who can keep a smile on their faces. When a fine girl comes from money, is mature or has been bad long enough, she KNOWS, that it’s not all about the money. That’s where my kind get’s the upper hand. I will do you logoligi saaaah, you wont even check my tithe.

But even funny fine guys have issues. I have my issues. I can be critical, overly analytical, sometimes lazy, a little dramatic, a photographic memory, plus a tad too much ego. Unless it’s exceptionally stimulating, it’s hard for me to keep a sustained interest in one thing for too long, that’s why advertising is so cool, I get to work on many brands at the same time. I knew I was so some way that I wasn’t expecting to run into the woman I’d marry anytime soon.

I have two exes, they’re both good friends, no kidding. After the second, I was ever more determined to focus on Goldinwords. Like, I was on fai-ah! I’d write post after post and people will say nice things. I’ve always seen Goldinwords as a ministry, so I’m not driven by comments and fans, that’s why I see no end date in sight. Enters Yaw.

Yaw has been an avid goldinwords fan for a few years. He’d usually comment and every now and then he’d send a mail going on and on about how he loved this and how he loved that. I was always nice (thank God!). He knew I’d been single for about a year. Out of the blue he called and asked “Hey Ben, are you still single?” I was suspicious and discouraged for him, because I knew the chances of getting along with whoever he was going to tell me about would be close to nil.

“You have to meet Belinda, I think you guys’ll be good together.” I laughed. This guy was a joker. Look at the name too…Belinda. Mtcheww. It wasn’t Shanniqua or Melissa or Clarissa or any other fancy ‘sa’ name.

“You you know what, let me send you her pictures. Consider her like a model for one of your ads, I’ll let her come by for auditions and let’s see what happens.”

So this Ben guy, is there more to him than vibes and jokes?

“Cool.”

He sent the pictures

“Chai! Dasrryyttt”

But what if it’d been photoshopped or something? I’m an ad guy, I know how picture can be very different from person. But I didn’t want to do gidigidi, so I chocked it. 1 week, 2 weeks, this gerh didn’t come, so I hit Yaw up on whatsapp. After hours of nonfa, i just chipped in ‘But that Belinda gerh she never came o. Ah well, you forget sef.”

He urged me to just call her up. Apparently after he’d told her all about me and his plans to hook us up, she wasn’t interested in auditioning again.

So I called, we talked. The rest is…awesome memories.

The point though, is I found her, talking to you. And since when I talk to you I feel like I’m doing the will of God, it’s safe to say that indeed Matt 6:33 is true. (shwishes voish tsu a shpiritwa passhta) For I was sheeking first da kingdooooom of Gad, and behold, look at the addition!

It’s almost cliche now, but just as true; minding the father’s business (in whichever way) has massive rewards. The more you get God comfortable with the fact that the things he blesses you with will not replace Him in your life, the more He opens the tap. You try and see.

Also, you aint got no idea who’ll be used to connect you. Despise no one. Be nice. See, Yaw decided to hook us up, because the guy who was wooing Belinda at the time dissed him. Yaw said “Am I the one this guy insulted like that? oh Beli, he doesn’t deserve you.”

So my niceness and the guys rudeness compelled the introduction. Just be nice. For many years, my e-mail signature has read; work hard, be kind and amazing things will happen (Canon O’brien)

The biggest take-out from my ‘hi’ to ‘I do’ experience is what it did to my relationship with God. He took a dating experience and turned it into a steep spiritual growth curve. It’s funny how your prayer life changes when you realize that the only way to keep something special is by securing it through prayer to the one who gave it to you in the first place.

You cant keep and enjoy a gorgeous God-sent woman through any other means than forging a better relationship with her God and practicalizing the inspiration He gives.

A wedding is a spiritual thing. Forget about your expert organisational skills and your reliable event planner and your rich uncle, if you don’t fight to win spiritually, you’ll drown in the torrent of ‘unforeseeable events’.

I loved reading all the post-wedding comments, one of them said now dierrr my posts will com wearing Ray Bans stunners. lol, pray for me, so that in doing what’s right in marriage, I can share with you and we can be more hopeful in an institution that’s plagued with side chics and divorces.

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36 Comments

  1. Ena said:

    Your last line (imoji with the both hands up in the air!!!). May you have the upper hand. Always.

    April 17, 2017
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  2. Gracie said:

    Congratulations Ben. Thank you for letting God use you to write His story

    April 8, 2017
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  3. Akua said:

    hook me up with Yaw, Yaw is bae!

    April 7, 2017
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  4. kabal said:

    tsaley. me i’m interested in the lyrics. i was ready to screenshot the all the lyrics you used in the journey to her heart. i need it. i don’t sing that well… if you get what i mean.

    April 5, 2017
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  5. Alice Afari said:

    Wooow… Great piece… Every woman needs a”YAW” like you in her life. This is really inspiring, May God bless your union!

    April 4, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      Amen, and amen and AAAAMMMEEENNN!

      April 4, 2017
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  6. Elorm said:

    Kyeres3, im speechl3ss.
    H3rrhh… Whata wow!
    Congratulations again.
    Im so glad i stuck to stalking this space since Priscilla introduced me. And now i get to see your beautiful love story… Awww this is so nice.

    Everyone needs a Yaw momu…

    April 4, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      You are so special El, you know that? Your overtakers anointing has made you pass Priscilla po. lol. I’ve loved having you around all this while. Better not go anywhere oo, aaanh

      April 4, 2017
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  7. Jesse Justin said:

    I need a Yaw in my life just like you. I only belive the “Yaw” is still to come. Anyway congrats Mr. Ben.

    April 3, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      Yaaaaawwwwwww! We call you forth into Jesse’s life nowwwwww! Amen. lol

      April 4, 2017
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      • Naa Shika said:

        I tap into it!

        April 4, 2017
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  8. Obaa Yaa said:

    Amen. We bless God. The good Lord will preserve your union

    April 3, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      Faaaather, please listen to Obaa Yaa’s prayer, amen. 🙂

      April 4, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      Thanks dear. #OluwaIsInvolved 😉

      April 4, 2017
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  9. Judy said:

    Meeehhhnnn!! I need a Yaw in my life right now. No kidding!!

    Congrats Ben.. That’s a beautiful love story. Scriptures are being fulfilled.. You shall serve and He shall bless..

    April 3, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      Aaaammmmeeennn! I’m telling Yaw he has a swelling client base now.

      April 4, 2017
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  10. Belinda Mintah said:

    Please don’t call her “Beli”… we don’t like kraa😂😂. We thank God for your marriage BenJ. And that you got the “da” and not the “sa”…lol

    April 3, 2017
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    • Delasi said:

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

      April 4, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      hahahaha, you’re right. in retrospect, aint nu’n better than a “Da”.

      April 4, 2017
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  11. Godfred said:

    nice piece,i wish you well in your marriage.
    Everybody needs a pal like Yaw,who sees beyond the ordinary.
    Congrats Ben & Bel.

    April 3, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      I tell you! such an asset!

      April 4, 2017
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  12. Araba said:

    Nice one BenJ. Happy for you. Continue being a blessing. But the hangout is over oo. You’re still advertising it on the page.

    April 3, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      I knoooww, i cant get over it! I should stop advertising it eh?

      April 3, 2017
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  13. Priscenyo said:

    Awesome buddy. Congratulations! And just to note. I visited

    April 3, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      hahaha, i kent berrive it! lol. We should catch up, been too long! What’ve you done to the tarrent?

      April 3, 2017
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  14. Belinda Owusu-Konadu said:

    This is great 👍🏽
    I pray for unction to function in both roles as a godly good husband to my namesake and a great writer to continue to inspire and affect lives positively.
    Once again congratulations Benji!!!

    April 3, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      I loooveee the function and unction bit. Makes me wanna lunge right into action before there’s an auction and a sanction . lol 😀

      April 3, 2017
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  15. Nana Kwame said:

    Ben, you’re married? Congratulations! I’m really happy for you and hope you have a wonderful and blissful marriage.

    On a more serious note, can Yaw hook me up? E be like he get good taste waa.

    One thing I took away from this is that when you give and give and give, you’re rewarded in ways you can’t imagine. Once again, congratulations!

    April 3, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      Hahahahahha, YAAAAAWWWWWWWW!!! where are you oo, come and remove your mouth. You have a new client. But you’re so right Nana, rewards come from strange places when the motive is pure.

      April 3, 2017
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    • Rachel said:

      Nana Kwame, God’s time is always the best. Have faith and put your trust in him, you will never regret lady who will come your way.

      April 3, 2017
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  16. Aure said:

    Am overjoyed, what a good friend yaw is.
    More grace and wisdom and an increase in your prayer life/more patience

    April 3, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      Ikr! He’s God-sent!

      April 3, 2017
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  17. Dzidzor said:

    *hooked me up with

    April 3, 2017
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  18. Dzidzor said:

    Everybody gotta love Yawwww 😂😂😂😂😂
    I told you he hooked me up to goldinwords right?
    Amazing friend and matchmaker lol. I just told him you did this post. I can just imagine him saying “Am I the one this guy insulted like that? oh Beli, he doesn’t deserve you.”
    May God bless your marriage with endless happiness.

    April 3, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      Thaaaaaaaaaaaattt guy! He do aaaaalll. lol and amen to the blessings!

      April 3, 2017
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