I’m not that tall, but when I stand on my lyrics, you lie baadd! I can give you vibes aaah, you’ll have to tip toe to reach my shoulder. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve heard people say “Eiiii you thhiiissss bbooyy! I cant wait to see who you end up marrying!” So many people said it that I started getting really curious myself…and a little worried too; who was I going to end up marrying?
I’m told I have a sense of humour, and gorgeous women love men who can keep a smile on their faces. When a fine girl comes from money, is mature or has been bad long enough, she KNOWS, that it’s not all about the money. That’s where my kind get’s the upper hand. I will do you logoligi saaaah, you wont even check my tithe.
But even funny fine guys have issues. I have my issues. I can be critical, overly analytical, sometimes lazy, a little dramatic, a photographic memory, plus a tad too much ego. Unless it’s exceptionally stimulating, it’s hard for me to keep a sustained interest in one thing for too long, that’s why advertising is so cool, I get to work on many brands at the same time. I knew I was so some way that I wasn’t expecting to run into the woman I’d marry anytime soon.
I have two exes, they’re both good friends, no kidding. After the second, I was ever more determined to focus on Goldinwords. Like, I was on fai-ah! I’d write post after post and people will say nice things. I’ve always seen Goldinwords as a ministry, so I’m not driven by comments and fans, that’s why I see no end date in sight. Enters Yaw.
Yaw has been an avid goldinwords fan for a few years. He’d usually comment and every now and then he’d send a mail going on and on about how he loved this and how he loved that. I was always nice (thank God!). He knew I’d been single for about a year. Out of the blue he called and asked “Hey Ben, are you still single?” I was suspicious and discouraged for him, because I knew the chances of getting along with whoever he was going to tell me about would be close to nil.
“You have to meet Belinda, I think you guys’ll be good together.” I laughed. This guy was a joker. Look at the name too…Belinda. Mtcheww. It wasn’t Shanniqua or Melissa or Clarissa or any other fancy ‘sa’ name.
“You you know what, let me send you her pictures. Consider her like a model for one of your ads, I’ll let her come by for auditions and let’s see what happens.”
He sent the pictures
But what if it’d been photoshopped or something? I’m an ad guy, I know how picture can be very different from person. But I didn’t want to do gidigidi, so I chocked it. 1 week, 2 weeks, this gerh didn’t come, so I hit Yaw up on whatsapp. After hours of nonfa, i just chipped in ‘But that Belinda gerh she never came o. Ah well, you forget sef.”
He urged me to just call her up. Apparently after he’d told her all about me and his plans to hook us up, she wasn’t interested in auditioning again.
So I called, we talked. The rest is…awesome memories.
The point though, is I found her, talking to you. And since when I talk to you I feel like I’m doing the will of God, it’s safe to say that indeed Matt 6:33 is true. (shwishes voish tsu a shpiritwa passhta) For I was sheeking first da kingdooooom of Gad, and behold, look at the addition!
It’s almost cliche now, but just as true; minding the father’s business (in whichever way) has massive rewards. The more you get God comfortable with the fact that the things he blesses you with will not replace Him in your life, the more He opens the tap. You try and see.
Also, you aint got no idea who’ll be used to connect you. Despise no one. Be nice. See, Yaw decided to hook us up, because the guy who was wooing Belinda at the time dissed him. Yaw said “Am I the one this guy insulted like that? oh Beli, he doesn’t deserve you.”
So my niceness and the guys rudeness compelled the introduction. Just be nice. For many years, my e-mail signature has read; work hard, be kind and amazing things will happen (Canon O’brien)
The biggest take-out from my ‘hi’ to ‘I do’ experience is what it did to my relationship with God. He took a dating experience and turned it into a steep spiritual growth curve. It’s funny how your prayer life changes when you realize that the only way to keep something special is by securing it through prayer to the one who gave it to you in the first place.
You cant keep and enjoy a gorgeous God-sent woman through any other means than forging a better relationship with her God and practicalizing the inspiration He gives.
A wedding is a spiritual thing. Forget about your expert organisational skills and your reliable event planner and your rich uncle, if you don’t fight to win spiritually, you’ll drown in the torrent of ‘unforeseeable events’.
I loved reading all the post-wedding comments, one of them said now dierrr my posts will com wearing Ray Bans stunners. lol, pray for me, so that in doing what’s right in marriage, I can share with you and we can be more hopeful in an institution that’s plagued with side chics and divorces.
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