The Porn Constipation

For a guy, porn is like the easiest thing to get addicted to. If making it in life was as easy as getting addicted to porn, broke guys would be as rare as an eclipse. It is such a seemingly normal but intensely powerful addiction to have. I myself was addicted to porn for years. In Commonwealth Hall, even if you wanted to steer clear of it, your roomies’ pen drive you borrowed to just copy an assignment will have some Brazilian one on it. Or you’d be returning from studying late and then be confronted by the live action going on on the computer screen of the guys two rooms before yours who didn’t bother to close the door.

In Legon it was easier to find porn than those small blue New Testament Bibles. I knew guys with a porn stash huge enough to run a 30 minute weekly show on TV for 25 years without repeating an episode. Their hard drives were so full of porn I wondered if that’s why they called them hard drives. Porn is probably the most successful dark manoeuvre because it has become as normal as a glass of beer. There is no shame in watching porn these days, in fact the coolest dudes share porn clips as jokes. Back in the day, a funny video would be of Lil Wyn saying ‘I cant think far.’ Now it’s of a guy staring at a wobbly jelly ass and tripping into a gutter.  It’s so ‘funny’, it’s normal…surely, it couldn’t be wrong. Or could it?

It’s amazing the extent a mind can go to rationalise an addiction, just to escape the weight of guilt. Like ‘Oh, it’s sex education, my wife will benefit some day.’ or ‘But it’s not like i’m raping anyone, i’m just doing my thing’ or ‘ Even that pastor I held in such high esteem po, not knowing he was screwing his house help. Ah, allow me dzor!’ or ’If even it’s sin kraa, all sin be sin. Me I don’t steal or lie, so if it’s porn that I watch, it’s draw draw.’ lol, there’s are so many of those wise stupidities. I know because I thought them too.

Which begs the question, is watching porn a sin? No. Not if it edifies you. So my question is, when you watch porn, do you feel edified? Do you feel like praising God? Herh! Don’t tell me that the ‘Oh my Gawwdd!’ you mutter when you see an unassuming girl clap her ass like a round of applause counts for worship! Can you listen to worship and watch porn at the same time? Can you share a scene from it with your pastor? Can you refer to it proudly when you and God are chatting one day about your best times on earth? I dunno bruv, can you? I can’t.

Porn parks itself in the recess of your mind and never leaves. If only it was as easy to remember dates, facts and formulas from those Economics handouts as it was to remember porn scenes. It sits in your mind like a constipation Adom kookoo capsules cant get rid of, so that even in church when the pretty praise leader jumps in praise your mind immediately situates her in a bedroom, matching that move to something you watched last month. Can I preach sambady?!  lol, the struggle is real o. There are more church guys gripped by porn than worldly guys, because the worldly guys just go out and pay for sex or sleep with the first girl who agrees, but it’s not like that for the chorister or the cell leader. At least with porn, he can secretly feed his lust without the fear of STDs or leaked sex tapes, it’s so convenient, yes?

Oh but if only we knew the pleasures we deny ourselves when we give in to this shot of bliss. Think about it, wont the all-knowing, all-powerful God reserve for himself a much more mind-blowing sensation from pleasing him than from entering (or imagining to enter) fleshy holes? i mean if you cooked jollof right now with some serious grilled pork, will you save the hard dompe for yourself or the juicy luscious pieces? it’s like that.

The sad thing is, we are more than happy to pay the price of our sinful addiction when we cant see the account from which the deductions are being made. I mean, it’s not 2018 (your set time to be a millionaire) so if your actions cost you that blessing, it wont bug you would it? because afterall, you never esperred that your breakthrough was months away. If your godly marriage would turn you into the most iconic mogul of our time, but you couldn’t tell just yet and it never happened, there’d be nothing to regret right? Because the price of your erections and addictions are sapping out treasures that require faith to behold. But who needs faith when you can get a hard on 10 seconds after pressing ‘Play’ right?

We’re all just a bunch of Essaus, trading a history making birthright we cant see now for a pot of stew (that didn’t even have Onga in it). How dare you judge or blame Adam and Eve for their sin, at least theirs was one apple. You, you have added the mangoes, watermelons, their fathers and mothers all to do smoothie, even with God breathing down your neck.

You realise how powerful your addiction is when you try to break free. It’s like a goat realising how strong it’s rope is only when it wants to mount the babe just 2 inches out of reach. But when you do break free, the space the addiction occupied is filled with the power of the Holy Spirit and you become able to conceptualize things that were beyond your wildest imaginations. You approach life with a dose of authority that only an understanding of your identity in God can give. You gradually mute the voice of the accuser that convinces you that you’re not good enough. You free your mind to receive the kind of enlightenment that only God can give. You grow a senseless faith that propels you beyond your generation. You laugh in the face of things that frightened you and dare to pursue dreams that had you peeing in your pants before. You realise fam, you realise that by being free of porn and bitterness and anger and all other weights of addictions, you aren’t actually missing out. You’re finally living. Choose to live. live.

Addictions are not the kind of things you break because you’ve made a new year resolution. You cant will porn to go away. You can’t promise yourself you’ll never backslide again and darrisit. You need mad grace. You need to crave the change, pray for it, trust in Him and swim in grace. Pray that the things that disgust him should disgust you and the things that excite him should excite you…it works. Your strength will fail you, but His grace is sufficient. If God’s hand is mighty on you dier, then if you don’t crave the change voluntarily, He will use situations to force you to crave it. Needless stress.

If you fail a few times, no yawa. Saints are just sinners who fell and got back up. This new year, let nothing constipate the blessings God has in store for you. Not porn, not womanizing, not stealing peoples husbands, not making your work your god. Nothing. Let nothing constipate your next level.

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23 Comments

  1. Oheneba said:

    You said it all in ‘few’ lines .. hehe
    I’m inspired

    January 17, 2017
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  2. Henry said:

    Love this piece

    The punch lines are Deep
    #God Inspired
    🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥👌

    January 17, 2017
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  3. Awenatey said:

    What a powerful ministry you have! God bless you ok! I can’t stop reading sef

    January 16, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      What a moving God-sent comment you just made. God bless.

      January 16, 2017
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  4. Lacuzan said:

    Thank you BenJ. loved it

    January 16, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      Awesome! You do have a pretty fancy name you know 🙂

      January 16, 2017
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  5. MayD said:

    ” …trading a history-making birthright we cant see now for a pot of stew (that didn’t even have Onga in it)” hehehe…
    Great piece, bro!

    January 16, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      Super! Glad you loved it!

      January 16, 2017
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  6. GeneralExcellenceKay said:

    Great truth…. thanks bruv…

    January 16, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      God dunnit. thanks for passing through.

      January 16, 2017
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  7. Ivy said:

    Nice one. Worth reading

    January 15, 2017
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  8. Kwame said:

    This is fantastic!

    January 14, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      Awesome feedback Kwame!

      January 16, 2017
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    • Bismark Twumasi said:

      Keep it up!!!

      January 16, 2017
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  9. Irene said:

    Hmmm!!!!! Ben, this piece……

    January 14, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      lol, hmmm

      January 16, 2017
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  10. Aure said:

    I have read this so many times today, shocking what I have learned,and why exactly is this piece talking to me, thanks bra Ben, u have no idea what u just did or me

    January 14, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      This gladdens me so much, you have no idea. Thanks for writing.

      January 16, 2017
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  11. Okoh Annor said:

    Amazing! On point!

    January 14, 2017
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  12. Precious said:

    Aaaaaaymen! Indeed “if you don’t crave the change voluntarily, He will use situations to force you to crave it” dixit BenJ. No plagiarism 😜. But th God is wonderful like da!

    January 14, 2017
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    • BenJ said:

      LOL. no plagiarism indeed, & yes, he is wonderful like that.

      January 16, 2017
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