I’m A Proud Side-boo!

A week or so ago, Ewuraesi wrote about The Glorified Side-chick. Well me, I don’t mind being a side boo at all, and by the time I’m done, you’ll wish to be one too. Truth is, exclusivity is overrated. “I wanna be the first person she thinks of when she wakes and the last voice she hears before she sleeps.” Dude, please.

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See what I mean? lol

And if you haven’t dated a hot girl or a woman you’re crazy about, you po dier you’re not amang of this conversation. Because the thing naah, you don’t even like her, so if another guy comes into the picture, then good riddance.

I’m talking about the kind of woman that gets your heart to go ‘bam Bam BAM!’ just thinking that she’ll be yours for life. The kind of woman you love so much that if you saw a clearly photoshopped picture of her with some other guy po, your eyes will get teary. I don’t mind being her side boo,in fact I’d rather be her side boo than her main…if God’s the main I’m number two to.

See, I’ve thought this out waaa, if your girl is so out of sync with God that if you send her a message through Him, she’ll never hear it, you’re screwed! I mean you’re with a woman who’s committed to you and a temper, a complex and other issues that only God can deal with and your headache is being her one and only? Chaiii, deezz gguuyyy.

My friend Sam is married to one eloquent, intelligent, ambitious woman. Maame is so smart, his lawyerly skills doesn’t even win him anything…but she fears God. So he goes to her and says

“Maame, can we do intensive Bible Study this week?” She is super thrilled by that! “Thaaaatt’s my huuussbbbaanndd! Sure love”

“I’ve always been curious about the book of Esther, maybe together we’ll make more meaning of it.”

By the time they were done, points he’d failed to make intellectually, she now understood spiritually. He said to me “Ben, she can argue with me…but not God. So now my challenge is to seek His opinion on something and make that the foundation of my case. It works, always!”

But my broda, if the only voice your wife hears is Oprah’s, or Justin Timberlake’s, how will you manage?

You see, the hotter she is, the more educated and superb she is, the more your wahala if God’s not her main boo. Why? Because those things make her a bigger catch, which means more of your heart invested in her, which means more damage to you if she screws you over. The better a woman she is, the more the need for God to be her main boo.

I think a Drop Dead Gorgeous woman is like Nuclear energy. Without God, she’s the bomb at Donald Trump’s fingertips, but with God, she becomes the force that will propel you into legendary status and make life feel too short even if you live till 120. He knows her better than you ever will, get Him in the mix!

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about a church worker woman, or choirister woman per se…someone who has a real personal relationship with him, those are two separate things. There are women who hide behind ‘working for God’ to be negligent wives. Those ones create an imbalance when they make their church the alibi for a wrecked home. But even someone like that you can work with if you get right with God yourself. It’s the one who doesn’t get why you need to support the church project when she needs some Brazillian woman’s hair on her head. As for that one, my broda, warchhit!

You know what the catch is? You have to be on top form with God to know His opinion on things, to know that in asking Him to intervene in a matter He will. You cant get her to come out unto the sea when you aren’t walking on it yourself.

So my broda, get a woman who loves God as much/more than you and enjoy your position as side boo. Because if you are the top dawg in the life of a woman who doesn’t see the big deal with God, start putting a will together ASAP.

PS: Can I have one of your nice watches?

PSS: The reverse of this also holds. Be the side bae to a man who loves God more.

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28 Comments

  1. Darwin said:

    Great writing. Totally enjoyed it

    July 3, 2017
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  2. Miriam said:

    This your ministry eh? ❤

    May 9, 2017
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  3. Etsey said:

    I woke up this morning needing some motivation and so fat, I’ve had an overdose. These words are powerful so much that they speak directly to the heart, not the eyes.

    Thanks so much.

    October 8, 2016
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  4. Maame said:

    Love this…. So true… Not to take the wind outta your sail Ben J, but One thing I’ve learnt in my few years of marriage is that if u wanna submit totally to your Hubby without any reservations, just pray for him more to hear God’s voice and follow His lead, that way, you’re sure you’re following God’s plan with Hubby in the lead, and u become a contented ‘Sidebae’ just as u put it….. Bless ya pleeeenty for this one…

    September 15, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      I’m screen-shotting this; pure validation. Somebody give me a Hallelujah!

      September 19, 2016
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  5. Kelly said:

    Nice one der worho !!!!
    I need one of such a woman to be side boo to.

    September 15, 2016
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  6. Yaw Ach said:

    Hahahahahah Ben, I just can’t stop laughing.. Its a super piece.
    Nicely written.

    September 15, 2016
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  7. Marian said:

    Very interesting piece. I gotta digress a bit. Many men today are intimidated by the educated/superb/hot woman you describe at one point. Same goes for a number of women. I hope people can learn to see that a person’s education/looks are not the only thing to them, there’s a lot more that makes up a person.

    September 14, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      You’re right Marian, which really amazes me. Our complexes complicate the beautiful relationships we could enjoy. God help us.

      September 14, 2016
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  8. Rej said:

    Love this

    September 12, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Makes two of us 😉

      September 14, 2016
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  9. Efua said:

    Great read. <3

    September 12, 2016
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  10. Ann said:

    Great piece. Love the message, pace and language

    September 12, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Such superb analysis in one line. You go guurrrll!

      September 14, 2016
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  11. Abdul Samad Sanda said:

    SMH!!! When I read the title, I was like, “What?! Whoever in their right frame of mind would enjoy being a side piece?” Come see the way I click on the link sharp sharp…LoL!! I am glad that I read this. You reminded me so much of a personal vow I made to myself several years ago. Thank you!

    September 11, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Hahahahaha, a big swerve wasnt it? Glad you liked it though. Cant help but be curious about this vow of yours

      September 14, 2016
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  12. Awenatey said:

    I love this! Ai just looorvv eet! Great read👍♡♡♡

    September 11, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Hahaha, Theeennkyyew, glad you did 🙂

      September 14, 2016
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  13. Aure said:

    When my bundle finish as soon as l got this text l nearly cryied,this us awesome,my husband to be u better be reading this

    September 11, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Hahahaha, that’s a telco internet bundle ad right there Aure. lol, I hope he’s reading this too. Really do.

      September 11, 2016
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  14. Belinda Owusu-Konadu said:

    I just couldn’t wait to munch on this piece when I saw the title …it’s really been worth it👍🏽
    Benjy you couldn’t have said any better!!
    #Godisthemainboo
    #andheisthesideboo

    September 10, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Whew! I’m glad it was worth it. Very interesting the new level you’ve taken this to: main boo, side boo, all boo….lol, so where will earthly boo be?

      September 11, 2016
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  15. Maame A said:

    😂😂 Your title tho !! Made me so eager to read the content ! Lol !! Good one there!!solid facts and great insight ! Thank You Ben. If God is main imma be #sidebaeanyday💁🏽 .God bless you

    September 10, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Lol, s3 i wanted to grab your attention. Aaammeen Maame, and God bless you too. I doubt it’s a coincidence you’re called Maame too 😉

      September 11, 2016
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  16. Constante said:

    Hahaa! Love this. Love this. The fresher she is, the more you need God to be her main boo huh. On point

    September 10, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Exactement! C’est vrais?

      September 11, 2016
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      • Jan said:

        Couldn’t have been put better. Fabulous piece…. Please keep it coming!! One per week Mr Ben J (wink wink)

        September 12, 2016
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        • BenJ said:

          Hahahaha, one week one post. lol.

          September 14, 2016
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