How Terrorists Are Born And The Way Out

The internet makes the world feel like a neighborhood. A bus runs through a crowd in France and hearts bleed in Accra. A bomb goes off in a Bagbad airport and the traveller in Kotoka shudders. There’s so much tension, so much bad blood, so much political corruption, so many horrific things happening and I might just know how to stop it. For good!

You see, a black president, a policy change, a peace walk, a celebrity campaign against violence are only as effective in dealing with the tragic spate of things as a cup of Sobolo will be in solving a three-day hunger. It wont work. An online campaign wont work. Raising awareness and whatever comes out of it may at best look like its working for a while, but it wont solve it for good. There must be a better way and there is! The family.

Think about it; anyone old enough to say a hurtful word or squeeze a trigger was a cute cuddly baby some years back. He was a blank canvas. He cried when mum pulled out her boob before he was full. He pooped his pants and giggled when he saw the disgust on dad’s face as he changed the diapers. They were born. All of them. But into what?

I submit to you fam, that a terrorist cant grow up in a genuine holy ghost filled family. When a woman carries her pregnancy with a special prayer topic over the unborn child every day, when daddy lays hands, when you wake to pee at dawn and hear mummy kabeying and kaboshing for you, when you see the impact of grace on your parents, it’s very hard to find fulfillment in the pain you inflict on others.

Humans of NewYork has this powerful documentary called ‘Humans’ where they ask people from all over the world to say what they understand by love. The guy who opens the video is a convict serving life for an untellable crime. He explains how as a boy, daddy would beat him basabasa and then tell him after “I did it because I love you. Trust me it hurt me more than it hurt you.” So he grew up gauging how much he loved a person by how much pain he inflicted on the person.

Screen Shot 2016-07-16 at 8.38.23 AMIt’s a family thing fam. The family is the first institution. God made it before he even established the church. The family is the bedrock of humanity. If the family falling apart is like a fart, then terrorist attacks, xenophobic campaigns, horrendous crimes and their synonyms are the inevitable stench that surfaces.

You cant solve that with a peace campaign. You cant solve that with even a love campaign. It starts with the family; a husband (man), his wife (a woman) and their children (biological or adopted). So if your heart goes out to any victim of an attack or mass corruption (every Ghanaian is a victim here), then you owe it to posterity to think carefully about the family you are creating now or will create one day.

You owe it to tomorrow to choose your wife carefully, to settle on a husband prayerfully. The consequence of your bad decision is so dire! Work on your family. Don’t get it twisted, having a side chic is not a modern, cool manly thing, it is an act of terrorism against your family. Letting your pride, ego and stupidity get in the way of you apologizing to your husband for what you’re wrong about is not a win for feminism, it is an act of terrorism against the family.

Let’s call a spade a spade fam. Let’s look at things for what they are. Supporting gay marriages and doing ANYTHING WHATSOVER that contradicts God’s blueprint for what a marriage should be is the genesis of a world falling apart.

Sacrifice your libido, sacrifice your ego, sacrifice everything you can…to protect your family. You owe it to your kids (born or unborn)…you owe it to tomorrow’s world.

Yes, there are some real hardknocks that emerge from prayerful families, but what I’ve realized is that a time comes when you make your own decisions. Every training you’ve gotten growing up is to help you make that decision about who or what you serve, and usually a prayerful mum, God-loving parents with a godly marriage…they make a BIG difference.

I once heard someone say “look, if a pastor’s child is fooling, don’t follow him o. If you see Dag Heward Mills or Otabil’s kids being deviants, don’t follow them! The kind of warfare their fathers are waging for them, they will convert tomorrow and become bishops…you, what is your father doing for you?!” Let’s marry people who will join us break things spiritually for our unborn children and win in advance, battles they’ll have had to fight. Let’s give our children a fighting chance. Let’s avenge every wrongful death and act of political corruption with an even stronger resolution to build a Godly family and protect it! Will you, fam? Will you?

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13 Comments

  1. Wow Ben!…This just blew my mind…I realized it had been looonngg I visited your blog so I came searching for you…and it was totally worth it! God bless you!

    July 29, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Eiiii Priscy long time no see. Feels good to have you back. You were missed

      July 31, 2016
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  2. Elorm said:

    yaasss.
    we owe it to the next generation to get into ‘tiiight’ Godly marriages
    marriage is sooo not about us, and im so glad you took the time to speak on this, Ben
    our children deserve the best..we just HAVE to ensure they get the best oh.
    and most importantly to futher HIS kingdom
    mmm, deep deep deep stuff
    thanks Ben

    July 24, 2016
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  3. Janet Amankra said:

    Intricately woven Bro. Your pen is mightier than a sword!

    July 19, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Chaaiiiiiii, whaaraword! lol, thanks J, Oluwa is involved.

      July 31, 2016
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  4. Margaret said:

    Aww, yes I will. Your post are truthful and always ob point. God bless you Ben.

    July 18, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Maaagggiiiii! I’m so glad you wrote. thanks a lot, God dunnit. write more often wae 🙂

      July 31, 2016
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  5. Rawd@ said:

    Too true… I imagine how the world would look like if every one was a Christian; in every sense of the word. God bless you Ben.

    July 18, 2016
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  6. Marian said:

    Lots of food for thought!

    July 17, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      How’s the eating going?

      July 31, 2016
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  7. Belinda Owusu-Konadu said:

    This is awesome…family is everything. God bless you Benjy!!

    July 17, 2016
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  8. Yaa Serwaa said:

    True talk. Its about time we sacrificed our selfish ways for the greater good of mankind. We the youth have an obligation to God and our society. #Godlydating. God bless you Ben.

    July 16, 2016
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  9. Pearl said:

    Indeed we need to build a Godly family! We really need to do due diligence in choosing our spouses. Lovely piece. God bless you BenJ.

    July 16, 2016
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