Is Virginity Like Syphilis?

Nana Oye is a girl genius who is no no stranger to Goldinwords, when she first featured here, she was just starting her post grad in some top notch Americana school…now she is a full-fledged Doctor of Economics (She’ll kill me for blowing her horn). So here’s this hot Christian genius (very young too), finding time in-between developing economic frameworks to write about something I think is so critical. It’s like the ringworm under the pretty hairs of almost us all.

I cant wait to see what you think. Dr. Oye, over to you…

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Akosua saw the light die in Selasi’s eyes when her tongue landed firmly on the ‘n’ in ‘virgin’. She sighed silently, knowing there was little to no chance of a fourth date now. This was her fifth Ojacious Singles connection this year, and every single one of the men had reacted similarly to her disclosure that she was virginal. It did not seem to matter whether this came up on the tenth or third date; it seemed a hard no to Tim, Kwame, Kwesi, Alfred and Selasi. This was the very reason she had decided to give Ojacious Singles a try. She was tired of getting this reaction from so-called worldly men and thought she’d try a crowd that should have appreciated it. Boy, was she mistaken!

As Selasi gulped down his hibiscus tea, visibly trying to regain his composure, her thoughts went back to their first date, and the events that led them to this point. She had called Selasi at 7:00 am one fine Saturday to bail on a date to Bojo since she had to step in for a sick friend, Aya, at Youth Day that afternoon. He had quickly sympathized and offered to help with the kids. After he sent a 30 second video of him rapping Lecrae, she knew he would be a hit with the 13-19 year olds and acquiesced. He showed up and Akosua barely had to do anything to settle him in with the kids, leaving her with plenty of time to help out with some other event management duties Aya had.

A number of the older Sunday school teachers made sure to tell her to hold on to this one, and she found herself beaming with pride at a man she had never seen in person before that day. Their second date was a prayer hike through Aburi gardens, followed by a picnic. Since the details of the date were kept a surprise from her, he did the food prep, and Akosua fell a little bit in love as she savored the Mpotowmpoto he insisted was all him. Between dates, their conversations were seamless and she felt she had known him for much longer.

He had been to a wedding the day before that fateful third date. Apparently, the couple at that wedding shared their first kiss at the altar and so he asked what her thoughts on abstinence were. She answered truthfully, saying that while she understood too well the treacherous nature of the flesh, she believed in adhering as closely as possible to the biblical standard with God’s help. He then asked how she managed to stay away after tasting the forbidden fruit. She smiled at the subtext and let the cat out of the bag.

Akosua does not remember what happened next, but remembers the voice note Selasi left the next day while she was at Women’s Fellowship – I am not worthy of you, I am afraid I will cause you to sin, I don’t want to hurt you and your relationship with God. Variations of these three phrases made up a very long voice note.

Akosua had been a tad hurt when Tim said he could not date a virgin because he is quite sexually adventurous and did not want to be bored by a starfish and when Kwame flat out blocked her on all platforms. By this time, she was numb and just sat for a few seconds before putting in a Joe Beecham cd and starting her car. Life goes on.

Insight comes in the most unexpected packages and as she worked on her back-ward bending labor curves the next day, she realized that there seems to be some sort of age-determined switching point for the desirability of celibacy, even among the holiest of holy. Kwesi had spelt it out clearly – he intended to marry his next girlfriend, but as that could not happen for the next three years due to financial and other reasons, he needed a ‘sinning saint’ he could sometimes ‘fall’ and pray for forgiveness with. She’d thought him callous then. But perhaps he was just saying what the others all felt but could not say.

Has she out-holied even the holy men? Why should virgin=frigid starfish to these men? Would she truly have to relax the pleasing God constraint now, after everything, to get married?

Hopefully, the answer is no. Have you had similar experiences? Would you date a virgin?

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68 Comments

  1. Abena said:

    Thanks for this! I have been encouraged! My friends and I are struggling with this very same scenario at this point of our lives. It’s good to know we’re not the only ones and that in the end it will all be worth it. God bless you.

    August 11, 2016
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  2. Jane said:

    Who is wiser than God? If He says no, who are we to metamorphose it into a yes? As a teenager I used to ask God so many questions you know. Why should I burn through no fault of mine? If sex before marriage is not acceptable then why do you make my body crave for it now? But once again no one is wiser than God. And we won’t regret obeying Him ever. May God help us all.

    April 10, 2016
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  3. Yaa Serwaa said:

    Hmmm asem oh. If being a virgin in our is a sin then there’s no hope for us as Christians. I’ll date a virgin any day.
    #VIrgin&ProudChristians

    March 29, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Asem dieh Asem. Good thing is that it’s not being done unto man. Du courage!

      April 3, 2016
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  4. Izzy said:

    Wow. A lot of comments and inspiring things all around. God bless you all plenty. The most irritating thing has to be the ‘saints’ who are actually ‘ain’t s’. Flee from them like the plague cause compromise is their middle name. At least the wordly ones have the good sense to be upfront and you don’t even bother pursuing anything in that direction.
    Remaining Chaste has been a struggle and I have contemplated just getting the sex thing over and done with so it doesn’t feel quite like a burden anymore but thank the God who stops us in our tracks and reassures us better is in store so long as we remain in Him. Just keep improving yourself till BEST arrives people. #VirginLoudAndProud.

    March 27, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Yie yie! Plays “I’ve got my mind made up” for you.

      April 4, 2016
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  5. Ata said:

    On the flip side …….. Google “retroactive jealousy”

    March 23, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Hmm… That opens a whole other can of worms. Many people like to believe themselves above this… until they discover not. Thanks for writing.

      March 27, 2016
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  6. AA said:

    I wonder if I have double standards…as a woman I am very protective of virginial status but I would not like to to marry a man who isn’t sexually experienced…and have said so to “good Christian boys” while expecting them to respect the choice I had made. I have never thought this “out loud” until now. Who should provide that man with the experience for my benefit, if he’s also keeping himself? Not so much because he would be boring but because I would prefer to be led by someone who knows where he’s going…just thinking out loud…it’s a difficult journey but the pain of regret (of giving it up to someone who didn’t value it) is worse. Stay strong.

    March 22, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Haha. As for the double standards, like I said to Elorm earlier, I used to think like that after SS and early Uni. But then I asked myself who I wanted my non-virgin to practice on and quickly realized I was being silly. Thanks for writing!

      March 27, 2016
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  7. Mawulawoe said:

    I remember a guy once told me that perhaps if we had sex we could or would have been in a relationship and I also quiet remember when I first told him I was a virgin,he kinda also gave the same response like Selasie Buh we still dated for a while. I do know that he had a whole level of respect for me plus every other guy who knew I was and still am a virgin. I am proud of it. It hasn’t been easy buh it’d been worth it.

    March 22, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      There are no guarantees either way so it’s important to do what is best for you. Thanks for writing.

      March 27, 2016
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  8. Kay said:

    Ironically the true Christian men are the ones considered boring by Christian sisters. Hard truth! After being introduced to this lady by a friend she flat out told me it would not work because church boys are boring. Au contraire. But sadly some sisters accuse us of being kyenkyenee and too Holy Holy. I’ve been asked to relax too many times because people felt uncomfortable with my godly standards. I’ve been accused of spending “too much time in church” . By Christian sisters! It’s just the world we live in. Commit your ways to God and He will lead to you the right person.

    Delight thyself also in the Lord ; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord ; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
    Psalms 37:4-5

    Bkrssings!

    March 22, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Hello Kay,

      I feel your pain, and I have witnessed this several times. For the record, I think there are boring Christian girls as well, and room for both ojacious ladies and gents to step up their game. One can be holy and interesting. It is not one or the other.

      Like I said to Elorm earlier, conversational chemistry isn’t linked to your virginity or goodness. You are signing up for a lifetime of conversations with a person which will continue long after your bones get too brittle for sex. So you have to enjoy their company outside of reading the bible, praying, discussing sermons, and even sex for it to work.

      Just like you admonished the ladies, don’t mind those who find you kyenkyenee and too Holy Holy. There is someone who will both appreciate your commitment to God, and find you fascinating.

      Shalom, and thanks for writing.

      March 22, 2016
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      • Kay said:

        You’re welcome. But that sister that said church boys are boring now runs to me to lighten up her day whenever the going gets tough, albeit we are just friends now. The fact that I’m wrapped in brown paper doesn’t mean I’m standard issue public school text book (Judging a book by its cover)! I am no virgin (unless the post graduate kind bears any semblance of relevance still), but after I took the decision to be born again, after a few falls, I make steady (by Great Grace), but there are ladies who oppose who I am now. So it’s both ways really, and a very worrying revelation. As a generation, let’s stand up for God, for truth and more importantly, let’s pray for one another. Let’s bear each other up in prayer! If anyone walks away from you because you won’t compromise in your belief of what is right, instead of being pained, rather ask God to help them. We are after all each other’s keeper. But we must be wary of wolves in sheepskin. May God help us all!

        March 22, 2016
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        • Oye said:

          Haha. Amen!

          March 27, 2016
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  9. dela said:

    Hmmm.

    March 22, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      *Sits beside you, hmmms with you, letting you know my ears are here if and when you’re ready to speak*

      March 22, 2016
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  10. Yaabombo said:

    Nice piece. Exactly what is happening in our age and time. The pple make u feel u soo out of place . I associate with this story cos u come across guys who call themselves Christians but shy away from ladies who are virgins. It’s like it’s a disease they don’t wanna associate. Some say everyone is doing it so don’t be out of this world. Times have change and no man wants to marry a virgin. Men want experienced ladies. Some just tell u I don’t wanna hurt u cos I love sex. God have mercy! My sister and I always say that the church is no more a safe place to be. The church is supposed to be a safe haven..

    March 22, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Yaa, hmmm…

      Like a disease they don’t wanna associate with (like syphilis) ampa. It is well. The thing is that we cannot point fingers too much because everybody has their cross to carry. However it does make things quite difficult when the safe haven is infiltrated with ‘double agents’. May God continue to grant his grace, patience and discernment.

      Thanks for writing.

      March 22, 2016
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  11. kemili said:

    Thanx for a good piece, am I regular reader of this blog but can’t remember it it’s my first time comenting…
    This just happened to me, am worried am not feeling as bad as I think I should. I have been waiting for ages, and finally when it seems I found one who loves me for real, all my standards have been brought to zero, I lost mine very recently cos this pressure and I just feel terrible. I used to be like d girl in story, lost so many seemingly good guys and relationships. Sometimes I feel it’s not my fault and sometimes I feel it’s my fault. I wish I had still waited, if u’re still virgin Plsss keep holding d fort/ standard. God bless d writer.

    March 22, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Hello Kemili,

      Thanks for writing, first time or not. Everyone is welcome here 😉
      Akosua would more than empathize with you. It is hard to remain ‘good’ in a situation where that good is unappreciated, and that seems to reward ‘evil’. I pray for God’s peace for your hurt, and his grace and strength to remain steadfast in Him. I know this issue is one that sometimes causes faith crises, but it is important to remember that God values you and his relationship with you, above the details. Do not let your feelings, or lies and judgement from yourself and others put space between you and God. Shalom, my sis 🙂

      March 22, 2016
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  12. Letitia said:

    Interesting and I do believe *singing* “…he makes things beautiful, in his time..”

    March 21, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Oh Tish, *dusts hymnbook and sings along ♫ In His time, In His time…♫
      Thanks for joining the comment party.

      March 22, 2016
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  13. Maame A said:

    Hmmmmmm “Christian ” ….. Nowadays I think we have more churchgoers than Christians …. But let God be the judge of that ….hmmm the struggle is real!!! Where are the true Christian men oo?? Then people will tell you that you are being too kyenkyene and critical ! Patiently waiting ….God being my helper !

    March 21, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Maama,
      We cannot judge at all. Like the saying goes, we cannot condemn people because they sin differently than us. But we can ask for grace for all of us. As Jael Wiafe sang, ♫ Hold on fast, …♫
      Thanks for writng

      March 22, 2016
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  14. Elom said:

    I’ve had a similar experience. After dating my ex for almost five years we had to break up because of our sickling status. For three years now all five boys i have been on dates with want someone who is experienced in bed. Most of them have described me as rigid or Osofo maame because of my belief in abstinence until marriage. I have the rest mocking me and say things that allude to me putting up a holy smock for a while.

    March 21, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Elom,

      This sickling thing hard o. I feel your pain too well. This experience thing kwraa, it all seems to stem from the belief that virgin=starfish, or that you have to be frigid to have remained a virgin this long. If you ask, you’ll learn you can have bad sex with a husband of 10 years, or after ten years of having sex in general. And that it is possible to have good sex relatively inexperienced if you do the right prep and bring all your curiosity and sense of adventure to the bedroom. So put some spray starch on that smock, iron it and wear it proudly if that’s what you’ve purposed to do.

      Thanks for stopping by.

      March 22, 2016
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  15. Akua said:

    My dearest Oye! You are such a blessing! While this story may be fictional, it certainly is true for some. To all those for whom it may be true, I say well done! You see, you ladies and gentlemen are an inspiration to the rest of us. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I was a virgin till I was 25, when God and I had a falling out and I threw a tantrum, saying I was tired of waiting for the person He had in mind and the one who was pursuing me at the time would have to do. That guy, among other things, insisted on sex before marriage and I gave in. Fast forward 2 years, and I discovered that sinning wasn’t his only issue. He was also unfaithful. After getting right with God and walking away from that relationship, I chose to just live for Him and not to compromise ever again. That’s when the most amazing man showed up and found me. But you know what saddens me? Having to tell him that I gave away something I should have held for him, to someone who was not deserving of it. In other words, I cast my pearls to a pig. Please pardon this long comment. I say all this to humbly ask: choose to honor God and don’t give in to any pressure. When the one He is preparing you for shows up, you will be thankful that you waited. God bless you and I pray more grace for you!

    March 21, 2016
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    • aku shika said:

      am actually glad for your long comment(You say). and am glad you found one who loves you despite all.

      March 22, 2016
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      • Oye said:

        You know! Let’s hold hands and jump in glee for her.

        March 22, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Hello Akua,

      Thanks so much for writing, and for sharing. We don’t mind your long comment at all. Who knows who will read it and be encouraged? I am very happy to hear the happy ending, and I hope all the Akosuas take heed and hold on. Shalom.

      March 22, 2016
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    • Bobby said:

      Akua, your story sounds just like mine though I had different reasons for my fallout with God. It’s never worth it to ‘stop’ waiting. A few years later, I had to tell my then-boyfriend,now-husband that I’d given it up to one worthless man. It was probably the most miserable day of my life. Thank God for grace and forgiveness. I hope the rest of the virgins in the world realize that being a pearl doesn’t always feel great but doesn’t change how precious they are…

      March 22, 2016
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  16. Elorm said:

    Hmmm, Akosua..
    Like they say, ‘the struggle is real’…
    But I say ‘ the struggle may be real,but so is God’
    I can see how frustrating it is to think you on the same pathway as the ‘brethren’ saints only to find out that,charley , some of them are exactly like the ‘aints’
    ‘Akosua , more vim
    Dontdont back down dont lower your standards

    March 20, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Haha. I accept the vim on Akosua’s behalf, and hope all the other Akosuas are listening. I like the beginning. God is realer and greater than all the struggle indeed. Thanks for writing.

      March 22, 2016
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  17. Kay said:

    Is it not absolutely absurd that “Christian” men refuse to date virgins for the simple reason of not wanting to lead them into sin? Christ did not die for this! I’m hoping this particular write up is purely fictional. For the sake of knowing that there are God fearing young men out there whose values are based on God’s word and will and not after the knowledge of man. Anyone who refuses to date a virgin because they can’t abstain till marriage is really out of God’s will and needs to go snorkeling in the blood of Jesus! They need deep tissue cleansing. Blood of the lamb style! But it goes to show how much perversion has pervaded the body of Christ. My sister got married as a virgin and it was one of the proudest moments of my life, how much more if my future wife, God willing happens to be one!? I chop lotto. Lol. But let’s keep praying. And for all the virgins out there, never compromise. In His time He makes all things beautiful!

    March 20, 2016
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    • Jade said:

      Oh Kay, you got me laughing.

      March 22, 2016
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      • Oye said:

        Can you Kay? Let’s laugh wai na nsem pii.

        March 22, 2016
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    • shika said:

      hahahhahahha Kay. Blood of the lamb style got me laughing
      Really true though.

      March 22, 2016
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      • Oye said:

        Charley!
        I think I count one cracked rib sef. And so. much. truth.

        March 22, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Ei Kay, advert an wo’ay3 no sly saa no? 😛

      On the real though, this made me laugh and had a lot of truth. Please let us know when you chop lotto so we can celebrate with you. Thanks for writing.

      March 22, 2016
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      • Kay said:

        O gyai saa!? LOL. *drops mic and moonwalks out of spotlight*

        March 22, 2016
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        • Oye said:

          Where are you running to? Come back here. People are calling to respond to the ad. LOL.

          March 22, 2016
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          • Kay said:

            Please my brother said I should tell you that he’s not there 😅

            March 22, 2016
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            • Oye said:

              Lol. Thanks for a good couple of laughs today 🙂

              March 22, 2016
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              • Kay said:

                You’re always welcome. Looking forward to more posts from you soon. Stay blessed 😀

                March 22, 2016
    • Jane said:

      Advertise no more Kay bae, the search is over I’m here and all yours. Come to think of it, where have you been all my life?

      April 10, 2016
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      • Kay said:

        Chale, at the bus stop by the blue kiosk adjacent the koko sellers house. I’m the guy sitting on the wall, bare chested, Nokia 3310 in hand, chewing atadwi! All mine init? Me too I’m all yours wai. Ahuof3 Jane 😀

        April 11, 2016
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        • Jane said:

          Hahaha…I see ya!

          April 12, 2016
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  18. djifa said:

    I also have the same reactions and I ask myself If it’s truly worth it.

    We are also human and have needs. We are able to abstain by God’s grace.

    Some people tell me am strong to be a vigin at my age 28yrs. I’m tired of dating and breaking up when they get to know you are a virgin. A guy that I have dated longest in my life left me to marry a woman who has a child for him. I thow your question back at you “Is virginity like syphilis?”

    March 20, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Hi Dzifa,
      Is it worth it? Sadly, I cannot answer that specifically as everyone has their motivations and expectations of abstinence. I can say that it is always worth it to do what is pleasing to God. Always. And so I pray for grace for you, because while we know He makes all things beautiful in His time, sometimes His time is a little hard to wait out. Thanks for writing.

      March 22, 2016
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  19. Sara said:

    Great piece. Akosua’s story is just like mine. I received the same reactions and responses. After hearing that it’s easy to fall but I think if she continues to be diligent and chaste God will bless her with someone who wants to be with a virgin. A lot of young men have this belief that virgins aren’t good but it’s the best gift to give to your husband on your wedding night. God bless all virgins and those living a chaste life.

    March 20, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Hello Sara,
      Akosua thanks you, and hopes you will be encouraged with your own words. It’s not easy, but no one does it because it’s easy.

      Shalom.

      March 22, 2016
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  20. Kofi Agyeman-Kuragu said:

    Great piece truly. But am I the only one who thinks guys should want a virgin over a non virgin? I’m not trying to be canal but I don’t see why anyone wouldn’t want fresh fruit over one with a bite taken out of it . No offence to those aren’t virgins of course, we all have sinned and fallen short of the glory. But for me to some extent these guys who rejected her are better than most. I mean they could’ve pretended to be saints and later trapped her in a sin that could ultimately destroy her destiny. At least this way she has an out, and last I checked being alone is better than hell fire. All in all I loved it. Hits the mark and asks all the right questions. Will be expecting more from you Dr. Oye😊

    March 20, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Hello Kofi,

      Well, I sincerely hope you are not the only one that thinks that way because then Akosua might just have to take a nun’s vows.

      I think Akosua (like you) appreciates the upfront honesty of these gentlemen as opposed to pretending it’s okay and later finding another reason to hide behind to break up with her, or worse try to convince, coerce, drug, or force her into a sexual relationship and mess her up.

      Thanks for your encouragement. I hope to be back sometime as God wills, and Ben permits 🙂

      March 20, 2016
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  21. Its been a while I read so I have a back log of stuff to read… I received similar reactions with people telling me they don’t like virgins cos even the first time with them is difficult .
    In a world like ours, where darkness is now light, we would strive to remain the light.
    God bless you.

    March 20, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      It’s really interesting, innit? I hope all the Akosua’s out there stick with their guns and remain light. Thanks for taking time to write, and God bless you too, Sisi.

      March 20, 2016
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      • Yaabombo said:

        Ladies I totally agree let’s not lower the standard . They rather have to up their game. One day one day we will meet someone that also values the things we do. The pressure is real. Sometimes is not just the guys that mock u but our fellow lady friends. But I believe it’s cos the wish to be like u and can’t so they trying to drag u into their mud. Wrong is wrong if everyone is doing it and RIGHT is still RIGHT if no one does it

        March 22, 2016
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  22. Weeh said:

    This is an interesting write up. Well let me just say that yes it’s true life does go on. In Romans we are told to not conform to the ways of this world rather be transformed by the word of God. You cannot judge or excuse the behavior of some ‘Christians’ but however you can make a choice to pursue the will and standards of God whole heartedly. I am not a virgin and the reason I gave up my virginity then was because I did not want to have the whole ‘I am virgin’ thingy come between me and his guy. I wanted to do it and get it over with. Was it a wise choice, obviously not. So now on hindsight I have been transformed by this Word of God and very celibate. I don’t even kiss. Most ‘Christian’ guys did not understand my standards and fled but I kept to what the word of God said to be Holy as He is Holy. It took awhile but I have been rewarded with a man who understands me and believes in courting this way. We have not kissed and obviously not slept together but we see so much the fruit of waiting already. I encourage you to keep your virginity, don’t doubt God and his ability to bring you someone who is awesome in every way. Trust me He will not give you a boring Christian guy, He has the ability to give you a mate that is exceedingly and abundantly beyond all you could think or imagine.

    March 20, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Thanks so much for sharing your story, Weeh. I really feel you on not wanting the whole ‘I am a virgin’ thing to be your thing in the past. It can be an obstacle in the sense that I know some people who put it on their forehead like that is what will make them good spouses. In reality, celibacy or virginity is not much in and of itself. There are men who married as virgins, who beat their wives. And women who married as virgins, who tear down their husbands in words and deeds at home and in public.

      Praise the Lord for your current man. May God keep and bless your union according to His will, and for His glory. Pls remember my invite when God’s time is nigh. All the best 🙂

      March 20, 2016
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  23. Elorm said:

    Heya Elorm!
    First time commenting for me too
    Anyway…… It’s really hard especially when the supposed good guys (good Christians) are too boring and the semi good ones ( not very spiritual Christians) tell you to loosen up after all the bad boys get the good girls…
    Looking at it from the other side, some girls do not want to date male virgins because they are scared they may be boring…. Most prefer a repented non-virgin.
    Thus it seems both sexes are scared of virgins….

    March 20, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Hi Elorm,

      Thanks for taking the time to write. Akosua agrees with you about it being hard.

      On male virgins, I used to think like that after SS and early Uni. But then I asked myself who I wanted my non-virgin to practice on and quickly realized I was being silly.

      As for being good and boring, conversational chemistry isn’t linked to your virginity or goodness. Let those ones pass by kwraa and don’t feel bad for it. You are signing up for a lifetime of conversations which will continue long after your bones get too brittle for sex.

      March 20, 2016
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  24. Eunice said:

    This reminds me of an old hip life song by Reggie Zippy, where he says, every guy wants to marry a vigin but these same guys won’t allow the virgins to be. Akosua should continue to hold on to her values, in His time He will make all things beautiful. She will be glad she did.

    March 20, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Hi Eunice,

      I remember that song. Obiara si op3 o, op3 virgin… I hope all the Akosuas do hold on. And thanks for taking the time to write.

      March 20, 2016
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  25. Sussie said:

    It’s rather unfortunate, but no one should give in to such pressure. God always brings our way people who share our believes and respect our commitments at the right time in our lives. No Lady should give in! Be it a virigin or one on the journey of celibacy.

    March 20, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Hi Sussie,

      Bless your ‘fragrant mouth’. You’ve said it all. Thanks for stopping by.

      March 20, 2016
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  26. Elorm said:

    Hmmm,is really hard for we who refuse to compromise our values.I have had the opposite reaction,boys hear this and all they want is to conquer you.Hopefully,God will bring me someone worthy.First time commenting,is an awesome blog.keep it up.👍

    March 20, 2016
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    • Oye said:

      Hi Elorm,

      It’s weird. I think the responses are related to age, beliefs and ultimate intention. People who say they are in their ho-ing or explorer phase tend to be the conquerors. Meanwhile, they have not conquered even Afadjato. Don’t mind them at all. And I know it sounds cliche while in your waiting period, but God makes all things beautiful in His time. I look forward to your testimony, and thanks for writing 🙂

      March 20, 2016
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