The SEXIEST Thing About My Dream Wife

There is a Nigerian proverb that owns a special spot in my heart; The man with a beautiful wife and the farmer with his corn by the roadside both have the same issues. Kwerrrr, dating a drop dead gorgeous woman, it’s a special calling o, trust me, I KNOW.

We all have things we wish for in the person we’ll marrry, like for me she being a fantastic cook is such a big deal! Im not going to deny it, I love body! The way I see it, if the body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, well how about some curvy architecture for the worshipper!? But that’s just me, for you, he being rich or ambitious could be what gets you weak in the knees. Or she having Krobosutra potential could be what kills you.

There are girls who love a man because of the family he comes from or the school he went to and there are men who love a woman because of the length of her hair or the lightness of her shade…which begs a whole new conversation about how she ended up halfco when she was born ebony black. But let’s leave that for another day.

There are guys who love a woman because she doesn’t need him for money and there are women who love a man because he claims to be a ‘tuber holder’ (im not explaining further). Now I’ve given all this good thought and seen quite a bit in my few years, so I have resolute conviction on the sexiest trait your partner could have; the passion for prayer.

Honestly, I don’t think your sweetheart being prayerful is sexy because I am Christian…it’s actually a logical conclusion. I know a woman whose hubby buys her a new car each time she catches him cheating. I know of men who watch hardcore porn, even though they are married to women with bodies like offerings.

I know of men who would rather eat stale roadside indomie than the 5 star cuisine of their horror wife. I know of women who’ll find more bliss in the potbelly of a bald man than in the fit arms of the abusive hunk lying beside them. There are plenty of these.

But even if your husband is a good rich man, or your wife is good with kitchen and bedsheet skills and your sweetheart has all those other wow traits, the tap runs dry eventually if she is not genuinely prayerful and he isn’t really right with God.

Fam, there are doors that only prayer can open. People try to reason an attitudinal change in a partner like it’s always the consequence of something they did wrong. It’s not. We love the Bible for Jabez’s prayers, Solomon’s wealth, Elijah’s keche and all those juicy promises God made, but we don’t place enough premium on the verse that says “…for we do not war against flesh and blood…”

Look, if it was flesh and blood then body trainers, extended eyelashes and silicon boobs will be appropriate weapons. If it was flesh and blood, then a fat account, Taekwando and Viagra or Agya Appiah bitters would be the right weapons…but it’s not. Because there are things that can only be overcome by prayer and fasting…not Onga and ripped abs.

Deciding to marry someone with money and body and family and swag as the fuel to your romance is like setting out on a cross-Atlantic journey in a flashy car; it can only get you to the beach! To sail the seas or straddle the skies, boo or bae must know their way to heavens gate!

True, church is littered with many wolves in sheep clothing, but if you yourself are prayerful, you’ll be able to discern the genuine from the fake.

So take a good look at the boo who may father your children or the bae you’ll be tied to for life and ask some really hard questions. If he isn’t the kind of man you can do warfare with or she’s not the kind of woman you can wake up at dawn to see travailing for you, watch that space ooo watch that space. The boyfriend you have now is just the trailer of the movie you’ll watch for the rest of your life, does that sound like a good time?

See, sex, no matter how good cannot bring the miracle of a baby to a barren womb. Food, no matter how delicious cannot convict an adulterous husband. Money, no matter how much will not satisfy a gold digging wife. Skin, no matter how fair will not hold back the slaps of an abusive husband. There are some things only true prayer can deal with.

If you find a man sexy or a woman irresistible, among other things, let it also be because they are genuinely prayerful. It’ll be a much much wiser decision than buying treasury bills po. Marry into prayer…it will bring you health, wealth and all the komininis…assuming boo/bae isnt a lazy sloth.

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82 Comments

  1. Mims said:

    You have just opened my eyes to one thing I had missed in my letter to God.
    God bless you so much
    This is going to the top of my list 👑

    December 5, 2016
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  2. Mims said:

    You have opened my eyes to something I have never really paid attention to. God bless you so much
    I think this is going to the top of my list 👑

    December 5, 2016
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  3. Sam said:

    I had a discussion with a lady friend and she subsequently referred me to this article. It’s just what my inner man has been telling me. God bless you sir

    September 17, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      O that’s just awesome! Bless you too bro.

      September 19, 2016
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  4. Nina said:

    I need a face-palm emoji….Forgive Ben, credit goes to you. I just realized.

    May 5, 2016
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  5. Nina said:

    Is there a way this message can get a larger platform? This is not necessarily a “before you say I do” kinda WORD, it’s for “before you say yes” (assuming forever is your plan).
    Tele……hmmm
    I would type a sermon if I continue…..but this is needed!!!

    May 5, 2016
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  6. shika said:

    i love that you can write the truth with soo much humour as well. prayer indeed is everything. Keep up th good work. great piece BenJ

    March 22, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      I love that you wrote Shika! I just love that you did.

      April 23, 2016
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  7. keziah said:

    Lovely piece…..i love the depth and the wisdom behind it…ven though we hardly think about it, this makes soooo much sense ..thank you for the reminder……That Nigerian proverb tho!! Mind bosting

    February 23, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Lol, that Nigerian proverb, Na waaa oo nawaa Keziah. I am glad you wrote. You made me smile.

      February 27, 2016
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  8. Addy said:

    A word in season indeed! God bless you. the things “already made” prayer can do in the midst of the storms? we have only to be still and know that He is God.

    February 23, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Couldnt have said it better Addy. God bless you too 🙂

      February 27, 2016
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  9. Precious said:

    Right.

    February 22, 2016
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  10. lindy said:

    God bless Ben,God help us to love right nd keep Him at the centre of every decision…Amen

    February 22, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Yessssss, the center really is where he belongs

      February 27, 2016
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  11. Izzy said:

    Hmmm…… just hmmm is all I can muster

    February 22, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Hmmmmmm….let me join you Izzy, hmmmmmmmmmmmm

      February 22, 2016
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      • Izzy said:

        Hehehehe. Pls do join. Sometimes I feel like I’m just sleeping on a bicycle.

        February 26, 2016
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  12. dela said:

    Yeah. For we wrestle not against fresh and brad.

    February 22, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      ror, I know light?!

      February 22, 2016
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  13. Akua said:

    I like the trend of your posts these days. God bless you

    February 22, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      I rrriiisshhiiv it Akua. I love that you’ve been around long enough to see. I just dont see your comments often enough 🙁

      February 22, 2016
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  14. OT said:

    This is a beautiful piece! So true and yet had me smiling throughout. Classic humour in there. It’s about time someone emphasized the power and necessity of prayer – the only way to re-mould the world around as after the image of heaven. God massively bless you and add to your talents

    February 22, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Aaaammmeennn! Thank you boss, I really enjoyed reading your comment. More grace 🙂

      February 22, 2016
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  15. Solace said:

    Flesh and blood did not reveal this to you. 100% true. I pray for more oil on your life. God bless you.

    February 21, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Chaaiiiii, sshhppiickkk it!!! I crave the oil so much…can it keep pouring? pretty please?

      February 22, 2016
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      • Solace said:

        The oil keeps pouring.

        May 3, 2016
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        • BenJ said:

          Ooooh let it pour some more!

          May 4, 2016
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  16. Jules said:

    The truth has come naked😊😊, Hehe great piece my brother. Subscribed for more.👍😅

    February 21, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Awooooooooo Jules, the way i had been waiting for you eh! was wondering what it was going to take for you to finally show up. I’m glad you are here now. Hope to ‘see’ more of you 🙂

      February 22, 2016
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  17. Araba said:

    Nice piece as always Ben. Telling the truth as it is in an extremely enjoyable manner. God bless you!

    February 21, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Aaammeennn!! I’m cashing the blessing in tonight nooorrr. Glad you passed through!

      February 21, 2016
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  18. Lina said:

    Great piece. Very deep and precise. This is the truth!

    February 21, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Thank you Lina! This is inspiring 🙂

      February 21, 2016
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  19. Christina Kyeremateng said:

    Very insightful, God bless you for sharing

    February 21, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Thank you even more for writint Christina, I’m glad 🙂

      February 21, 2016
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  20. Victor said:

    Wow. Wow. Deep truths. Really got me asking myself difficult questions. God bless you, man. And I feel your writing style lol

    February 21, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Charle, as for the difficult questions dier, we all have to keep asking ourselves from time to time oo. But God dey, may He help us to make the best decisions always.

      February 21, 2016
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  21. Naa Awula said:

    Well written piece…I hope it actually speaks to people. It’s nothing but the truth. God bless you Ben.

    February 21, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Me too Naa, me too. I truly hope everyone this will make a difference to sees it.

      February 21, 2016
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  22. Nana said:

    Good stuff!

    I love

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      I love

      That you wrote 🙂

      February 20, 2016
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  23. Teni said:

    Nicely written…

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Thanks 🙂

      February 20, 2016
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  24. Elorm said:

    *slow clap*
    Thank. You. Ben!
    You said it all… and its true.
    There’s nothing more endearing than a man/woman of prayer. Its very crucial that we (both the saints and the aints) all have to make it part of our ‘non-negotiable list’. One of my fave youth speakers, Jackie Angel, advises thus”Pray to be attracted by holiness”.
    My prayer is that as we look to #siezethebae(hehe) we ourselves endeavour to BE the ‘spirichua kingkongs” that we looking for.

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      How do you manage that Dr.? you write so welll! gosh this is fit for a guest post! Wo y3 ogboo papa!

      February 20, 2016
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  25. Lee said:

    Wow!! I just LOVE this piece!! The beauty of hard truth!! God bless u.

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      I just love that you wrote Lee! God bless you too 😁

      February 20, 2016
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  26. ewura said:

    hello…..u ddnt disappoint me once agn….dis the third time im commenting on a post of yours…..not that i ddnt like the others…dis one jux hit me haaarrrrddddd….God bless you guys so so much….and da oda guys too…Tele, Ewuraesi nd Keni….u guys keep up da good work…hmmmm…..PRAYER IS THE MASTER KEY….that sunday school song we used to sing……anyways looking forward to reading more…great work big ups!

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Lol, you started like you were about to sing Adele’s hit track😬. I’m sorry, joking when we are to be serious, but my personal goal is to increase your comment rate astronomically. Very nice hearing from you. From the whole gang.

      February 20, 2016
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  27. Barbielove said:

    This post reminds me of the movie The War room. It’s so inspiring .thanks Ben. Advice well noted.

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      O i should watch that movie o…still havent. 🙁

      February 20, 2016
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  28. Maame A said:

    W’ano hwam!👌🏽👌🏽

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Aseda nkor emma Awurade…good to ‘see’ you Maame 🙂

      February 20, 2016
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  29. Powerful! Wonderful! Soo true! Spirit filled!… And the adjectives will keep rolling on and on and on…God Bless you Benjamin… You inspire me… In fact your whole crew does..

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Awwwoooooooooooo come see us melting oo, lol. Truth is though, this your one liner packs more encouragement than you can imagine…thanks Sherrie, God bless you too 🙂

      February 20, 2016
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    • Lee said:

      That’s true! U all really inspire. It’s good to know my 2 girlfriends n i are not the only weird ones😂😆 “the wisdom of God is truly foolishness to those who don’t believe..”
      Keep writing guys💪

      February 20, 2016
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      • BenJ said:

        Let’s all be weird together! Our special weird gang 😎😎😎

        February 20, 2016
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  30. seddy said:

    …eye opener,rush reminder of the truth!
    Simply on point!!!

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Simply loved that you commented Seddy…more of that!

      February 20, 2016
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  31. Capone said:

    Any3mi… hat off. A timely reminder of what matters most

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Any3mi! I miss you roff roff. Awwww we must MUST talk soon!!

      February 20, 2016
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  32. Bee Jay said:

    BAM! BaM!! BAM!!!… Chale Ben you’re in the spirit. Nicely done too

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      lol, I dont mean to be a tease oo Bee Jay, but this your name dier it is carrying requests for your wife oo. lol, thanks for writing tho 🙂

      February 20, 2016
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  33. araba said:

    nice piece. God bless you.

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      And you too Araba, and you too 🙂

      February 20, 2016
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  34. Hetty said:

    Dassoorrr God bless you Ben
    You always nail it

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Oooo Stallllpitt Hetty ah, wo pe se mi feri (silly smile)

      February 20, 2016
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  35. Radjie said:

    please what is a tuber holder?

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Herh Radjie, becareful of something! lol, dont come and tempt me kraa. lol

      February 20, 2016
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  36. Emefa said:

    😁😁😁😁😁 Benjamin Anyan…dats some truth! I pray for more grace for u to write more of these. This piece is spiritually backed sha…it is not ordinary nd very practical too.God bless u. Nd oh the description of the *temple *tho 😂 hw du even do it?😂😂😂😂

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Aaaaammmeeennn Em, I reshieve it! lol, i utterly enjoyed reading your comment. The temple though, it’s necessary, no?

      February 20, 2016
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  37. Evelyn Bruce said:

    Mmmmm word word word!

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      I just imagined you saying that Evelyn 🙂

      February 20, 2016
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  38. Constante said:

    I LOVE IT! And I agree paaa. Prayerfulness is also a number one thing on my list. May God help us keep the prayer fire burning till and after our bride/bridegroom has appeared

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Yeesshhh, our fire must never wax cold C, you have seen the light 🙂

      February 20, 2016
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  39. Joseyphina said:

    Wonderful piece! Enjoyed reading every bit of it. Lots of wisdom in there. God bless you, BenJ!

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      And you too J, i’m so glad you wrote!

      February 20, 2016
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  40. amagyaama said:

    Brother, you have preached fully!!! c’est vrai ! i just appreciate this piece! more Grace to write with the perfect combination of practicality and finesse ! God bless you.

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Aaaahh endier sister Ama bring your collection eh. lol. I RISSHIIV ALL THE BLESSINGS!

      February 20, 2016
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  41. Klo said:

    Ladies and gentlemen… THIS is the truth, the whole truth, and NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!!!

    ps.. Extremely well written! 🙂

    February 20, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Ps…you just made me smile 🙂

      February 20, 2016
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