There is a Nigerian proverb that owns a special spot in my heart; The man with a beautiful wife and the farmer with his corn by the roadside both have the same issues. Kwerrrr, dating a drop dead gorgeous woman, it’s a special calling o, trust me, I KNOW.
We all have things we wish for in the person we’ll marrry, like for me she being a fantastic cook is such a big deal! Im not going to deny it, I love body! The way I see it, if the body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, well how about some curvy architecture for the worshipper!? But that’s just me, for you, he being rich or ambitious could be what gets you weak in the knees. Or she having Krobosutra potential could be what kills you.
There are girls who love a man because of the family he comes from or the school he went to and there are men who love a woman because of the length of her hair or the lightness of her shade…which begs a whole new conversation about how she ended up halfco when she was born ebony black. But let’s leave that for another day.
There are guys who love a woman because she doesn’t need him for money and there are women who love a man because he claims to be a ‘tuber holder’ (im not explaining further). Now I’ve given all this good thought and seen quite a bit in my few years, so I have resolute conviction on the sexiest trait your partner could have; the passion for prayer.
Honestly, I don’t think your sweetheart being prayerful is sexy because I am Christian…it’s actually a logical conclusion. I know a woman whose hubby buys her a new car each time she catches him cheating. I know of men who watch hardcore porn, even though they are married to women with bodies like offerings.
I know of men who would rather eat stale roadside indomie than the 5 star cuisine of their horror wife. I know of women who’ll find more bliss in the potbelly of a bald man than in the fit arms of the abusive hunk lying beside them. There are plenty of these.
But even if your husband is a good rich man, or your wife is good with kitchen and bedsheet skills and your sweetheart has all those other wow traits, the tap runs dry eventually if she is not genuinely prayerful and he isn’t really right with God.
Fam, there are doors that only prayer can open. People try to reason an attitudinal change in a partner like it’s always the consequence of something they did wrong. It’s not. We love the Bible for Jabez’s prayers, Solomon’s wealth, Elijah’s keche and all those juicy promises God made, but we don’t place enough premium on the verse that says “…for we do not war against flesh and blood…”
Look, if it was flesh and blood then body trainers, extended eyelashes and silicon boobs will be appropriate weapons. If it was flesh and blood, then a fat account, Taekwando and Viagra or Agya Appiah bitters would be the right weapons…but it’s not. Because there are things that can only be overcome by prayer and fasting…not Onga and ripped abs.
Deciding to marry someone with money and body and family and swag as the fuel to your romance is like setting out on a cross-Atlantic journey in a flashy car; it can only get you to the beach! To sail the seas or straddle the skies, boo or bae must know their way to heavens gate!
True, church is littered with many wolves in sheep clothing, but if you yourself are prayerful, you’ll be able to discern the genuine from the fake.
So take a good look at the boo who may father your children or the bae you’ll be tied to for life and ask some really hard questions. If he isn’t the kind of man you can do warfare with or she’s not the kind of woman you can wake up at dawn to see travailing for you, watch that space ooo watch that space. The boyfriend you have now is just the trailer of the movie you’ll watch for the rest of your life, does that sound like a good time?
See, sex, no matter how good cannot bring the miracle of a baby to a barren womb. Food, no matter how delicious cannot convict an adulterous husband. Money, no matter how much will not satisfy a gold digging wife. Skin, no matter how fair will not hold back the slaps of an abusive husband. There are some things only true prayer can deal with.
If you find a man sexy or a woman irresistible, among other things, let it also be because they are genuinely prayerful. It’ll be a much much wiser decision than buying treasury bills po. Marry into prayer…it will bring you health, wealth and all the komininis…assuming boo/bae isnt a lazy sloth.
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