There was a time when everybody understood that Love was serious business: none (okay, very few) would play with it. People generally said what they meant and meant what they said so even common utterances weren’t to be taken for granted, thoughtless of using the big ‘L’…
But now, every third monkey uses the word Love, not even as it was meant to be used, but just as one other word in their repertoire for getting what they want. We have come to despise the honest use of the word because it has been abased by charlatans and is indeed safer to deny its truth immediately than to accept even the slightest of possibilities that it could be true; because it’s been proven more often than not be false – thank you Liar Liar… Love has NOTHING to do with selfishness…
I woke up one morning with a single word on my mind that led to an interesting trip down Memory lane, through Imagination Street and into Ideal Town. The word was ‘Baby’.
Probably one of the most used endearments in the world (recently lazily contracted into ‘bae’…smh @ you Millenials!), pitifully few of its users have an inkling as to what it entails. A baby is an infant, usually the youngest and weakest member of a family. Babies are cute, demanding, sweet, egocentric, fragile, loud, & they have no sense of place, time, responsibility or shame. They will pee or poop anywhere & anywhen they feel like it, only to smile in your face once you change them – and maybe just before they do it again, depending on the cunning of your particular baby. A baby is Faultless, Blameless, and the closest any human being could ever come to Innocence.
Can you now begin to see what it means to call someone your baby? You’re essentially saying “I know you’re human and you have other redeeming and off-putting qualities but I’m loving you every day regardless because the bond between us goes deeper than what you will do at any time.”
A ‘Queen’ on the other hand is succinctly defined as “a female sovereign’, but my favourite definition is ‘a woman preeminent in some respect’ – basically, a bosslady in something. If you call a lady your Queen, you’re telling her that as far as all women in Your world go, she’s Number 1. A Queen is revered, she’s wise, she directs and supports her King. She’s his point of reference, she’s the mother of his children; she’s his only subject who’s also his Partner. There’s something about her that makes her stand out. The twist is that you may not even know it yet, but finding it out will only confirm your belief – she’s a keeper.
Now, your ‘Sweetheart’ is actually one of the most simple of these love terms: one who is loved. It doesn’t get any simpler than that. It means that the only important thing between the two of you is Love – not money, time, distance, social status or (even?) Common Sense at times.
‘Darling’ refers to a lovable or endearing person. Just being around them makes you want to love them and be happy and comfortable with them.
“My love’…is obviously kind of self-explanatory.
I think the purpose for this early-morning writing of mine is to point out that though talk is cheap, words have weight enough to crush you or ground you. We should not be a people who say one thing, think of another and end up doing a third – especially not in Love.
If I could have 3 wishes for you in 2016, they would be – unrestricted room for the operation of God’s Will in your lives; a long, healthy life; and for you to mean every word you say in this coming year…especially to your loved ones.
Let’s depopulate the FriendZone in 2016 by letting our ‘prisoners’ go free to find love wherever else they may so we can also focus on our One prospect. A friend of mine posted that relationships nowadays were “Love at first sight; Sex at first night; Breakup at first fight”… Hits a bit too close to home for most, I bet. Maybe it’s because we never go into relationships determined to make them work no matter what, instead always looking to ‘trade up’ if the slightest opportunity presents itself. There’s a reason why tightrope performers do their most notable work when there are no safety nets…
I’m a culprit myself so I’m resolving to cut down my errant abuse of ‘Sweetheart’, ‘Baby’, ‘Darling’, & ‘Ahoɔfɛ dua’. I shall however reserve the use of ‘Dearie’ for special occasions. Luckily I don’t use Queen at all so I think I should be able to guarantee its mint condition someday. 😀
Ps. Seasons Greetings y’all!!!