Say It Loud!

There was a time when everybody understood that Love was serious business: none (okay, very few) would play with it. People generally said what they meant and meant what they said so even common utterances weren’t to be taken for granted, thoughtless of using the big ‘L’…

say it 1But now, every third monkey uses the word Love, not even as it was meant to be used, but just as one other word in their repertoire for getting what they want. We have come to despise the honest use of the word because it has been abased by charlatans and is indeed safer to deny its truth immediately than to accept even the slightest of possibilities that it could be true; because it’s been proven more often than not be false – thank you Liar Liar… Love has NOTHING to do with selfishness…

I woke up one morning with a single word on my mind that led to an interesting trip down Memory lane, through Imagination Street and into Ideal Town. The word was ‘Baby’.

an african american baby sits in a diaper and smiles slightly
an african american baby sits in a diaper and smiles slightly

Probably one of the most used endearments in the world (recently lazily contracted into ‘bae’…smh @ you Millenials!), pitifully few of its users have an inkling as to what it entails. A baby is an infant, usually the youngest and weakest member of a family. Babies are cute, demanding, sweet, egocentric, fragile, loud, & they have no sense of place, time, responsibility or shame. They will pee or poop anywhere & anywhen they feel like it, only to smile in your face once you change them – and maybe just before they do it again, depending on the cunning of your particular baby. A baby is Faultless, Blameless, and the closest any human being could ever come to Innocence.

Can you now begin to see what it means to call someone your baby? You’re essentially saying “I know you’re human and you have other redeeming and off-putting qualities but I’m loving you every day regardless because the bond between us goes deeper than what you will do at any time.”

ok, maybe not exactly like this..
ok, maybe not exactly like this..

A ‘Queen’ on the other hand is succinctly defined as “a female sovereign’, but my favourite definition is ‘a woman preeminent in some respect’ – basically, a bosslady in something. If you call a lady your Queen, you’re telling her that as far as all women in Your world go, she’s Number 1. A Queen is revered, she’s wise, she directs and supports her King. She’s his point of reference, she’s the mother of his children; she’s his only subject who’s also his Partner. There’s something about her that makes her stand out. The twist is that you may not even know it yet, but finding it out will only confirm your belief – she’s a keeper.

Now, your ‘Sweetheart’ is actually one of the most simple of these love terms: one who is loved. It doesn’t get any simpler than that. It means that the only important thing between the two of you is Love – not money, time, distance, social status or (even?) Common Sense at times.say it sweetheart

‘Darling’ refers to a lovable or endearing person. Just being around them makes you want to love them and be happy and comfortable with them.

“My love’…is obviously kind of self-explanatory.

...I blame this telenovela for this one...
…I blame this telenovela for this one…

I think the purpose for this early-morning writing of mine is to point out that though talk is cheap, words have weight enough to crush you or ground you. We should not be a people who say one thing, think of another and end up doing a third – especially not in Love.

If I could have 3 wishes for you in 2016, they would be – unrestricted room for the operation of God’s Will in your lives; a long, healthy life; and for you to mean every word you say in this coming year…especially to your loved ones.

say it friendzoneLet’s depopulate the FriendZone in 2016 by letting our ‘prisoners’ go free to find love wherever else they may so we can also focus on our One prospect. A friend of mine posted that relationships nowadays were “Love at first sight; Sex at first night; Breakup at first fight”… Hits a bit too close to home for most, I bet. Maybe it’s because we never go into relationships determined to make them work no matter what, instead always looking to ‘trade up’ if the slightest opportunity presents itself. There’s a reason why tightrope performers do their most notable work when there are no safety nets…

 

I’m a culprit myself so I’m resolving to cut down my errant abuse of ‘Sweetheart’, ‘Baby’, ‘Darling’, & ‘Ahoɔfɛ dua’. I shall however reserve the use of ‘Dearie’ for special occasions. Luckily I don’t use Queen at all so I think I should be able to guarantee its mint condition someday. 😀

Say what you mean and mean what you say – shouldn’t be such a hard thing to do, should it?say it mean

…Tele 😉

Ps. Seasons Greetings y’all!!!

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25 Comments

  1. Oye said:

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    February 29, 2016
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  2. Oye said:

    While I am not against using sweetheart instead of ‘Herh’ to get the attention of a passer-by, some people consider it condescending or too familiar and so I am resolving to use it less along with you.
    As for the ‘Love’, ‘Queen’, etc. Ohemaa, Ewuraba, Odo and their like are all terms generously sprinkled about in local parlance in the beautiful courtship process others call haggling in our markets. Yes, it is meant to make you feel special and lose some bargaining edge from your puffed-up head, but so long it is not Mido or Misu)l), we can relax small on that. If it makes yu feel uncomfortable, by all means say it. I for one, have smiled more than had my day ruined or felt threatened by any of these.

    As for the charlatans who call everyone baby dieh, I don’t have their time today. Say my name, say my name…

    Finally, le ‘friendzone’ n’existe pas. Or at the very least, requires your permission to hold you. If someone says they see you as a sis/bro/pal only, believe them and be that and nothing else to them. If they realize their assessment was wrong, they will let you know.

    *mic drop*

    February 29, 2016
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    • Tele said:

      Lol, Oye! That’s some in-depth commentary right there…points made well-noted tho 😀

      February 29, 2016
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  3. Precious said:

    Keep it real!
    In the process of getting some free space on my phone storage, deleting son chats was one of the tasks. I stumbled across a conversation with a “friend” which reminded me of how easily we can lie abt our emotions when chatting on whatsapp and the others… Sometimes it’s even unconscious so much it’s become part of us especially with the use of emoticons…
    Since we decided to let our words and actions match as we say what we mean and mean what we say in 2016, let’s be mindful of that as we express our emotions on social media…

    January 17, 2016
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  4. Precious said:

    Kind reminder of the truth… Mean what you say and sy what you mean! 2016 there we go!
    Ps: I love the definition of sweetheart, nothing but love between the two parties…

    January 7, 2016
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  5. Izzy said:

    Very well said Mr T. Words are too abused these days. I meet you 5 mins ago and you’re already calling me baby like seriously? It’s alarming how far people have taken the bae thing too!
    Life has enough troubles already. It would be wonderful if we all were just more honest and straightforward.
    Cheers to a better 2016 everyone.

    December 31, 2015
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    • Tele said:

      Glad you approve Iz. Can’t wait to see you in 2016 too 😉

      December 31, 2015
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  6. Elorm said:

    mmm hmmm… see, this is why some of us developed an aversion to pet names. folks be misusing it all the time…even in non-romantic settings(even worse,eek). ppl go ‘sweety, pass me that pen’ and im like ‘i have a first name, use it!! gee!’
    but seriously though, u don hammer the nail for een head ooh. u talk am true!
    oh, and a big yassss to those new yr resolutions.
    ps: memes got me like…buahahahahaha
    wishing us all aGolden new year filled with Gods light and love.
    cheerio!

    December 30, 2015
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    • Tele said:

      Thanks for the big ‘Yassss’. You know you can never really get enough of them 😉
      Glad you passed by

      December 31, 2015
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  7. Ewurama said:

    on point!!!! as for ur 3 wishes, they are just what i have been praying about for the coming year.. God bless u.

    December 30, 2015
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    • Tele said:

      Amen oo Amen! Bless you too 🙂

      December 31, 2015
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  8. Maame Efua said:

    Thank you very much for this post.Just what I have been thinking about for sometime now.I sometimes get peeved when people I barely know call me bae,my love etc.People really do not know the meaning of some words.

    December 30, 2015
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    • Tele said:

      Seems this matter is even bigger than I thought o..hmm :O
      Ps. You’re welcome Maame

      December 31, 2015
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  9. Betto said:

    Be you. The pretence is too much lately. Say what you mean and mean what you say. That’s all to it. Have a fruitful year!

    December 30, 2015
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    • Tele said:

      Exactly how I feel! Thanks for passing by too

      December 31, 2015
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  10. Adzo said:

    I am now prepared to depopulate the friend zone and get that king to reign for real..and I hope to be set free so I can be his Queen for real.😉 u always say it right 👉

    December 29, 2015
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    • Elorm said:

      amen ohhh..
      PS: *shameless plug* im an ‘Adzo’ too// *wink*

      December 30, 2015
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      • Adzo said:

        Guess what I am Elorm too

        January 1, 2016
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    • Tele said:

      Amen gain ooo! Some Adzo connection going on here eh?
      Adzos rule o 😉

      December 31, 2015
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  11. Amanda said:

    It’s been long since I came here oo. But this piece is touching. We’re all going to depopulate the friendzone and hope to be set free too 😂😂

    December 29, 2015
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    • Tele said:

      Amen o!!! That’s the spirit! Lol

      December 31, 2015
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  12. Maureen said:

    Nice

    December 29, 2015
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    • Tele said:

      Thanks Maureen

      December 31, 2015
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  13. Ab said:

    Eeeeeiiiish! Yho! As3m paaaaa na wab)so saa no!!!.

    December 29, 2015
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    • Tele said:

      Well…someone had to say it…anaa? 😉

      December 31, 2015
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