Mind Games –The Story I’ve Never Told.

I’ve always had a hard time believing that the prayers I whisper in solitude have power to make any meaningful change in my life. For a very long time it made praying and ‘quiet timing’ seem like a ‘let me do it for doing sake’ activity than ‘the exercise of dominion’ activity it actually is. A few years ago, something extraordinary happened that changed the trajectory of my life and my response to these ‘mind games’. I have never spoken of it publicly, and even now, I’ll alter minor details, but the main facts will be unscathed.

Jones and I became very good friends many years ago . I don’t keep many close friends so there’s enough quality attention to give to the few. Jones was a great buddy. We had equally crazy ambitions, same love for bantering, wit and word games and a shared taste in beautiful women. The bad boys detested us because we won over the beautiful girls and just flirted playfully, ruining their chances of getting them and actually getting to base 3. Till date we’re tagged ‘The meat wasters.’

A few years ago Jones changed. He’d become more irritable, too obsessed with how he looked and overly swayed by material things. Too proud and stubborn to admit it if he was wrong and too hungry for new ‘adventure’. This badly affected his relationship with Maame. Maame is the sweetest thing and I couldn’t believe he was being such a jerk to her. Their relationship went sore from the incessant fights and it saddened me because things were really happening for me and mine :-).

Please my God
I probably should have prayed this hard

I started to pray for him. Honestly I didn’t believe my prayer would do anything and I just prayed dutifully. It was hard to pray intensely because I’d remember some weakness of mine or some unanswered prayer from before and I’d wonder why I was bothering at all. But I stubbornly continued to pray. Nothing seemed to change, Jones was slowly becoming a completely different guy and I saw him as the pale downgrade of the awesome buddy I used to have.

When he started giving me attitude, the only reason I didn’t just jump ship was because I knew that if the tables were turned and I was acting funny, Jones would NEVER leave. Even if I punched or dissed his mum (his sore spot), Jones would stick around till I came to my senses then give me his piece of mind…so I tried to do same. It got worse and he finally ditched Maame…the poor thing. I knew it was a mistake, I knew any guy in his right senses would never walk away from a Maame; she was an endangered species; the kind of woman that men searched a lifetime and didn’t find, and foolish Jones was treating her like dirt.

I was so upset, but I prayed for and accommodated this new downgrade of a Jones for the sake of his awesome original version. A week after him and Maame split, I went over to his and we were just hanging out. He hadn’t expected me and for some reason that day when I spoke to him it seemed to be getting through to him. We were sitting in my old car just talking, when the freakiest thing happened! I need you to know that I am not making this up…this is Ben talking, no role playing, no gimmicks. I’m the realest most skeptical guy this side of the Sahara, so I cant make this kind of thing up without tearing my skin out in the process.

I was just going on with Jones about how terrible a mistake he was making with Maame and how his recent rants and tantrums weren’t adding up when suddenly his voice deepened, eyes widened and when the words he spoke came out of his mouth I knew it wasn’t my buddy Jones talking…the voice said “YOU THIIISSS BOOOYYY…..STOP PRAYING FOR THIS BOY, YOU WONT STOP. I WILL KILL YOU TODAAAYYY!!”

USA, California, Los Angeles,
Oo no, not me…please not me

“Kaaaiiiiii, but Jones why?” I thought “We are playing noorr, then you pull this on me…” O but Jones wasn’t there, the thing that was wasn’t kidding either. There noorrr I screamed “Jeeezos!” I started speaking in tongues I’d only heard come out of the mouths of prayer warriors. I am a pretty good actor so I feigned confidence, but I’d never been more shaken in my life! His folks were inside so they heard the commotion and came out. There, their son was speaking mysteries -some predating his birth, clearly overtaken by something very dark. It was just us three and his dad asked me to restrain him while he prayed.

Me? The same Ben who never stayed for a deliverance service because he didn’t want to upset any demons? The same Ben who never sang ‘Y3 tia abonsam so’ because he didn’t want to trouble the devil? The same Ben who had a list of weaknesses and addictions too dirty to be spoken in public? I should be the restraint of a deliverance session? You must be joking! What if the thing realized I was getting in the way and started telling my dark secrets to everyone? Why me? Why me? Why me O, God? The way I don’t like trouble!

But Jones was my friend, and there was no pastor around. So the dirty, sinful, guilty, freaked out me had to hold James back and call on a God I had disappointed so so so often. I screamed on top of my voice but the foul thing only laughed in my face…and rightfully so; my relationship with God was  “Our faaaada…” I understood then that verse in the Bible where the foul spirit said “Jesus I know, Paul I know, but who be this Ben guy?”

In the end, the foul spirit left my dear friend and it had nothing to do with me; a man of God had issued the command over the phone and asked us to say “Thank you Jesus.” I cried all the way home that night. The police man at the barrier didn’t even feel right about making a bribe request. I was drenched in anointing oil and tears. I was so so scared too. I really thought I’d die. If I’d upset such a dark king pin…what would stop my Honda from being toppled off the Achimota Highway at midnight? I couldn’t sleep that night. I was so scared. But two things stuck with me that night;

When thingy started talking, its main issue was that I wouldn’t stop praying for Jones. But me too those prayers I’d been saying weren’t any serious prayers. I was so spiritually careless with a lot of foolish habits, I didn’t even believe so much in the prayers I was saying…but it still managed to disrupt the plans of some dark kingdom, so I thought…what if I set out to live more rightly…what would happen to the prayers I say then? That night, that confrontation with darkness was my greatest proof of the fact that PRAYER WORKS. It doesn’t matter what your mind is saying, how you feel, what you did last night, how bad you think you are, PRAYER WORKS! In trying to frighten me, it had proven to me better than anything could that prayer does work.

The greatest weapon the devil dreams of is your mind against you. If he gets you to believe lies like you’re not so loved by God, your prayers wont work, God’s ok with you sleeping around and abusing his forgiveness, you’re too gone to get a second chance…the moment he has you believing those things, that’s when you start to die…not when your liver gives up on you decades from now or your marriage goes bad. You start dying when your mind gives way to his deception.

The second thing that happened was my life changed for good. There are things I haven’t done since. You don’t get threatened in the face by some dark prince and go back to your foolish ways….what’s wrong with you?!

Online Blessings
God’s like, “O see who just said hi!”

It was that night I decided to change the content style of what I put up here on Goldinwords.  Previously, these kind of explicitly Godly posts were infrequent. I used to tag them ‘Strictly Spiritual’. After that encounter, I took a second look at my priorities, and I realized that the funniest, wittiest and most dramatic posts will do you no good if you encountered what I did. You can’t joke a demon out of a situation or reason or bribe him out of it, you exercise spiritual authority but how can you if you have an identity crisis? That encounter changed the content form of this blog.

Jones made radical changes to his friend list and his playlist. I have my buddy back. You know what’s funny? Till date I still worry that my prayers are in vain. After aaaaallll of that, my mind still tries to play games and it takes a conscious effort to inject faith into my prayers and believe that I’m not just speaking in vain.

My friend wasn’t the only one that got delivered that night, in many ways I was too. So I’m telling you all this so you believe more in the power your words have. So that you muster the courage to dispel any voices in your head which will try to deceive you and make you think spending time with God and praying are pointless. God answers prayers fam. Trust me, I know it for a fact. Pray.

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64 Comments

  1. Shi-Shi said:

    Boss. This post just woke up a sleeping giant within me..God bless you for sharing this story with us…thank God for your life..if I tell u the way this post has gingered me, eh?! Ha! God bless u is all I can say!

    December 4, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Chaaaiiiiiii, someone or something is in trouble oo. Because by the time Shi Shi will be done eh!! Hmm. I’m loving how charged up you are…God bless you for blessing me.

      December 5, 2016
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  2. Kwame T said:

    It’s too awesome.

    November 25, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Hmm, no joke o Kwame.

      November 29, 2016
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  3. Bessmah said:

    Thank you for sharing. I have been encouraged, stay blessed!

    March 23, 2016
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  4. Kekeli said:

    Your blog is my go to ‘entertainment’ source now-good reads, all injected with a healthy doze of Word and sound advice. Looove love love!

    February 29, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      Yaaayyy, where’s the popcorn???!!! Let’s do this more often. You’re so cool to hang out with 🙂

      March 9, 2016
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  5. Precious said:

    Ps: This is the first story I read of you I guess… A friend sent me the link on whatsapp I was touched by the story but I didn’t go on to visit the blog…. How I got to find the blog is another story for later… Maybe the beginning of a love story… Lol

    January 7, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      O you should have visited the first time! Anyways I’m glad you love what you see. I’m sure I’ll be seeing more of your comments soon.

      January 15, 2016
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      • Precious said:

        Oh yes you will😊

        January 15, 2016
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  6. Precious said:

    Yes! Too often we concentrate on the physical, emotional and financial welfare of our loved ones leaving out the most important one… Their spiritual wellbeing. Thanks for two reminders to me:
    1. A prayer is not only the one addressed to God in a church or gathering or even in your room (while “being in the Spirit”, praying aloud, in tongues and being very emotional about it)… It’s every single word you address to God even in the silence of your heart
    2. I am the guardian of the ones I claim are dear to me (even of those who are not for a fact), I have to pray for them… Because my prayer counts
    Thanks BenJ God bless

    January 7, 2016
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  7. Barbielove said:

    Thank You Ben…..this got tears in my eyes….I need to start for praying for people I gave up on including myself….I am glad your dearest Honda didnt veer off the Achimota road….Prayer works. I believe!

    November 12, 2015
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  8. Sean said:

    Wow, that’s amazing!! Thank God for the deliverance. Now I know why things changed…

    October 29, 2015
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  9. Yorick said:

    Deep. Well written,well done.

    October 29, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Thanks Yorick. Na God do am 🙂

      October 30, 2015
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  10. Rena said:

    The mind game is real…. thank God your friend was delivered

    October 26, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      As real as it gets Rena, as real as it gets. Yup, all thanks to Him.

      October 26, 2015
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  11. Lowwis said:

    So apt! This spoke directly to a real struggle I’ve had, especially recently. I cannot emphasize enough how on point this is. You may have written it just for me. God bless you!

    October 26, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      You must have been the reason why He wouldn’t let me be till this came up then. Thank God it’s done you some good…makes me glad too.

      October 26, 2015
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  12. Dzidzor said:

    I love love your blog!!!! Nice inspiring piece. Prayer indeed works!

    October 26, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      I love love love LOVE that you love it. Cant wait to be reading more from you.

      October 26, 2015
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  13. Salomé said:

    Thanks so much Ben for sharing this. I personally needed to hear such a story. God bless you and may you always see the outcome of your prayers.

    October 25, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Aaaaammmmeeennnn! I’m cashing this in with God pronto. Glad you wrote Salome.

      October 25, 2015
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  14. ABena said:

    Thank You so much Benji. God bless you.

    October 25, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      And you as well Abena 🙂

      October 25, 2015
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  15. Naa said:

    Heeeerrrrrhhhh!!!!!!
    I am even shaking here saf! I can imagine how fast your heart was beating.( lol)

    On a more serious note, I do have a few Jones(One Is my brother) in my Life and to be honestly, i have not seriously prayed for him in a while because he keeps on getting worse. i have almost given up actually.
    Thank you Ben! I will revive my prayers for him. Deliverance is near!

    October 24, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Lol, I gotcha Naa, see I took care of it? Deliverance is here!

      October 25, 2015
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      • Naa said:

        Best response ever! I got everything you meant! Thank you!!! 😉

        October 25, 2015
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  16. alwine said:

    Thanks for sharing Ben. Thanks

    October 24, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Thank you too Alwine. I’m glad you read it.

      October 25, 2015
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  17. Ewurasi said:

    Wow..Thanks Ben, this is priceless. God bless you for sharing.

    October 24, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      I’m glad it blessed you Ewurasi…makes it worth it.

      October 24, 2015
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  18. Anonymous said:

    Bless your heart Ben. I hope said friend got Maame back…

    October 24, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Hmmm….that’s a story for another day oo.

      October 24, 2015
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  19. Dromo said:

    I remarked to a friend once that your style of writing had changed. Its great though that your experience pushed you more towards God than away.More grace to overcome

    October 24, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Therreee you goo, you old timer Dromo. lol. But seriously, there was no chance that’ll have pushed me away. Kwer. Mini away?

      October 24, 2015
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  20. Asabea said:

    God bless you Ben. Prayer indeed works

    October 24, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Yes it does. It sooo does.

      October 24, 2015
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  21. Ayele TresordeJesus said:

    Wow…

    October 24, 2015
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  22. Elsie said:

    Seriously Ben, God bless you!

    October 24, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Seriously Elsie, Amen!!

      October 24, 2015
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  23. EBK said:

    Inspiring…. This reminds me of what Archbishop Dag Heward Mills said and I quote ” ….believe in your prayers ooh, it works oooh…hmm”
    The Bible rightfully emphasised, pray without ceasing. Amen!
    Bless u Ben.

    October 23, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Yes yes, you’re right EBK, there really should be no ceasing.

      October 24, 2015
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  24. visitor said:

    Big ups for being brave enough to share this testimony. Not surprisingly, it has blessed so many people, judging from the multiple comments. (I myself a first-time commentator). For me, it reminds me of the importance of exercising our spiritual authority through prayer IN ALL SITUATIONS. Indeed, as u rightly pointed out, all d wit n humour n such would be inadequate when push comes to shove!

    October 23, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      You sound like a prolific writer you know. Thank you for writing. I’m glad you did.

      October 24, 2015
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  25. ofeibea said:

    Greatly encouraged……was on the verge of giving up on a dear one because it seemed d more i prayed, the worse they got and i v been thinkn perhaps i am jst joking in praying. Thanks Mr!

    October 23, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Oh nooo, doonnttt! Just continue doing your part Ofeibea…what’s the worst that could happen? A couple of ‘wasted hours’ in prayer? Even that’s not a high price to pay if a dear one’s well being is at stake. #MoreGrace

      October 23, 2015
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  26. Maame said:

    The Mind is indeed the Battle field. Can we determine which prayer will yield results? Lets Pray everywhere and anyhow and leave the rest for God. It seems the little things we ignore makes the most impact.

    October 23, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      It sure is. I think any pray that’s consistent with God’s will gets his attention. The challenge is keeping faith…for that, we all need grace. E go be Maame.

      October 23, 2015
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  27. Constante said:

    Waw!If this is not simply amazing. I needes this. You were right on time, Ben. Time to put my intercessor armor back on.

    October 23, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Back on it goes then Constante! Sooommee thhiinngss are in trouubbllleee.

      October 23, 2015
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  28. Edem said:

    God bless u Ben.. Iv been encouraged n energized to keep praying for some people in my life thanks to yr post.. God bless u..

    October 23, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Aaaammeenn, Amen, amen! I’m so glad Edem.

      October 23, 2015
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  29. Dede said:

    Aww God bless you Ben.Another masterpiece.You just injected some faith into me

    October 23, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Thank God. That was the whole point D 🙂

      October 23, 2015
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  30. Lotenna said:

    Thanks Ben….greatest encouragement so far

    October 23, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      And that right there just encouraged me more 🙂

      October 23, 2015
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  31. Kathryn said:

    Thanks for this, Ben…if only we knew how much power we wield when we pray. God bless you for the reminder

    October 22, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Oh, if only we knew!

      October 23, 2015
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  32. Dorcas said:

    Thanks Ben for reminding me… prayer works! I just need to go on my knees

    October 22, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Then I’ll see you there Dorcas…I need me some knee time too.

      October 23, 2015
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  33. Elise said:

    I love this, Ben! You’ve got me thinking about so much! God bless you…. awesome birthday present;)

    October 22, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Yaaaayyyyy! Happy Birthday Elise!! I wish you the assurance that your heart’s deepest prayers will be answered ASAP! I love reading from you 🙂

      October 23, 2015
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    • Morkor said:

      Oh my word twas my birthday too yesterday! Happy Belated Birthday to us yipeee : ) This post is absolutely a message from God to me. God bless you Ben and thank you so so much!

      October 23, 2015
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