When Kofis Start Romancing Kwames -what really wins?

I usually stay in the closet and spy through the keyhole as controversial things happen. I’d hate to estrange people who could find value in Goldinwords because of my explicit stands on a controversial matter. But seeing as everyone is brazenly coming out of closets, here’s me bursting out of mine!

I’m deeply saddened that the country we borrow our accents from, we get our sense of pride because some distant relative lives there, we spend many years staking visa lottery in the hope to be accepted by, we Photoshop pictures in a desperate attempt to prove that we’ve really really truly been there, we draw so much inspiration from and like to be associated with, that country has legalized the matrimony of guys ‘spooning’ guys and girls ‘wheelbarrowing’ girls.

I know I know, there’s a lot more to a civil union than sex, there’s companionship, blah blah blah and love right? Right? But that’s where this donkey’s back breaks.

The sexiest ministry in Christianity (to me) is the apologetic, which intellectually defends our faith. The guy who does it best is this awesome person called Ravi Zacharias. He said one time that the saddest thing about humanity is how we’ve educated ourselves to imbecility. There is no immoral, hedonistic, evil habit or desire that you can’t fly in some Professor from some fancy University to justify. The way I see it, that summarizes how the most sacred institution can be reduced to a boys boys gerhs gerhs situation. Some ‘learned’, ‘successful’, ‘compassionate’, famous people campaign for something and perhaps it must be the way to go.

You see, I work in advertising. For a while now I’ve been in the thick of building advertising campaigns to favorably impact people’s perception of many products and services. It comes down to insights and knowing what makes people tick and connecting that to how your product or service advances their interest and their values. It comes down to word choice and rationales –anything can be sold if your wording, insight and communication channel selection is perfect.

It’s because of that, that so many ‘open-minded’ and ‘liberal’ people are comfortable with this sad development. It’s cool to be open-minded because it’s a characteristic of a contemporary, learned person. If you air a divergent or controversial view on someone’s sexuality, you are ‘intolerant’, and who wants to be intolerant?

If you cant accept that the ‘minority’ prefer people of the same sex, you’re stuck in the past…and who wants to be ancient? So you see, when the values we define ourselves by become the basis of arguing for something unfortunate, a cat catches our tongue and we’re caught between a bum and a hard thing.

“Eiii, me I should say that gay marriages are despicable so that it looks like I’m some misinformed, conservative, myopic religious fanatic? Please no o, what if I want to ‘bogger’ next year?”

My deepest hurt though, is in the theme, the hashtag, the banner under which this ‘victory’ is being trumpeted; #lovewins. I don’t know guys but really? Did love win? The blueprint of love that came to die on a cross that 1st Corinthians 13 speaks of, is that the love that won? How could love have won when she’s been so disfigured and perverted? How could love have won when she’s been given a new passport and social security and hidden in some ‘safe house’ dungeon?

I bet you love is sitting in chains somewhere watching the news, reading tweets and asking ”When, how, what have I won? The thing you claim I have won isn’t me. My victory would never look like that. And if I came out to say it wasn’t my victory you are celebrating, you’d call me fake and delusional.”

It’s like the girl whose picture was mistakenly used to report the sex blackmail story against Asamoah Gyan. Yes, the girl who actually did it with Gyan was called Sarah, but it’s another Sarah’s picture which was sited. I feel sorry for her. But for love, I feel so sad, being celebrated for something she intrinsically can’t be part of.

Now I’m not one to enter heated lengthy inflamed religious debates because really nothing is stronger or more stubborn than a man’s will. Heck, even God is limited by our will. If a person’s mind and will are bent on calling a perversion love, nothing I could write could change that. Because the same thing that brings gladness to the heart of someone being saved is utter rubbish to another with a different value system. So the aim of all this isn’t to change some deep-drilled position, it’s just to express my sadness.

I could go on about the sacrilege of using the rainbow as the color scheme for the movement (given its Biblical significance) and all the mocking crucifixion images online, but it’s not necessary. What is necessary is for you to recognize that it is possible to get lost in your intelligence and be led into murky waters by your very ‘contemporary’ and open-minded world view.

If our moral standpoint isn’t anchored to the unadulterated truth of Jesus, the waves of ‘equal rights’ and ‘genius thinking’ will slowly carry us into dark waters. When Kofis start romancing Kwames and the State says ‘Way to go!’, we need to halt and check where it is we’re going.

Yes there’s so many other wrongs like corruption and murder and adultery and all those. Yes gays are brothers and sisters and we’re commanded to love regardless. Yes, yes, yes to them and a dozen other valid pointers and wrongs, but does an uncorrected wrong make a new wrong any right? Can the existence of plenty sin –perhaps even graver- justify the legitimacy of some other sin?

Marriage and family are such sacred sacred institutions and our intelligence is getting in the way our allegiance to the Lamb.

Align your heart more with God’s and guard it like your life depended on it, otherwise a pipe would tear in from behind and that abhorrent pain would become pleasure to you. Peace out.

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22 Comments

  1. Kjoe said:

    Wow! Thanks for pouring out the hard truth. You are a true soldier of the truth Ben. God bless You brotha.

    August 25, 2015
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  2. Amagyaama said:

    Hi Ben J,of all your pieces,I finally get to say you’re not a shallow writer.. In fact, I can now vouch that you’re a good one…and an excellent one in the making…
    In these last days, a perverted mind can be a dangerous equity…
    Let’s stick to the roots…the word of God is our only light past these murky days…
    More grace Ben J

    July 18, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      You must be one stubborn one Ama, seeing how much effort i had to put into turning you around. lol, but thank you, truly elated. I concur with you, we should never detach from the roots. E go be :-)

      July 23, 2015
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  3. Prince said:

    Smh
    Young man,salvation is personal ok.You can read the whole bible to someone but you can never give or find salvation for someone.And in that same way,we all have our choices,if you’re interested in women,someone may also be interested inmen or in his or her same sex.Besides,sexuality is not something you choose,it’s something that controls you.
    Get some education on that mister

    July 13, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      I’m glad you wrote Prince, I am most excited about your comment, This would have been too one-sided without it. You took the time to read, I appreciate that.You were right about ‘Smh’ and the young man and the salvation bits, but beyond that I shuddered at what you had to say. To say sexuality is something that controls a person is to say every sexual crime culprit is a victim of a master he has no control over. What a world this would be if we were all slaves to our sexuality, responding to its every whim?! I dont think you considered grown men interested in little girls or people interested in animals? is that something they cant but just obey?
      I say this with great respect but to think some ‘education’ will enlighten me and correct this unfortunate position I have is very unfortunate and only buttresses my point; EDUCATION IS NOT THE KEY! We’ve already ridden on its light to this level of deprivation. We need to be better aligned with the Holy Spirit, that’s what I need and perhaps you too. If we both are completely full of the Holy Spirit and can still say “Sexuality is not something you choose,it’s something that controls you.” then I’ll owe you three wishes. I promise :-)

      July 13, 2015
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    • Maame said:

      Hi Prince we love you.
      I just thought you should know that, but our love and tolerance should not be our endorsement of your sexuality; and if you will bear with us: we still like to stand by our Christian values and our God not man. We are just taking our salvation personal that’s all. Love You Babe.

      July 15, 2015
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  4. S.K. said:

    Charle! Like joke like joke you be too much! God bless you for standing up for truth. I always read your writings, but this is the first time i am commenting. lol

    July 13, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Wow Steve, I’m glad you finally came out :-). I’m hoping this wont be the last time. Amen and Amen and Aaaammmeen to your kind words.

      July 13, 2015
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  5. Zizi said:

    I love the way you write.

    July 10, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      I love that you said so :-)

      July 10, 2015
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  6. Bobby said:

    Nice piece, man. What the world’s so called open-mindedness is leading to is ‘someway bi o’.

    July 9, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      You’re so right. Some way bi papa

      July 10, 2015
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  7. Nii-Baah said:

    …. does an uncorrected wrong make a new wrong any right? Can the existence of plenty sin –perhaps even graver- justify the legitimacy of some other sin?
    Thanks bro. You couldn’t have asked it any better

    July 9, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      You’re far too kind bro, far too kind :-)

      July 10, 2015
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  8. Doris said:

    Thank God for pple like you who are not afraid to stand up for what is right, even if it means being called intolerant or some other thing… On point my brother

    July 9, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Thank God for grace, and encouragement from you. Makes it a whole lot lighter :-)

      July 10, 2015
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  9. Joseyphina said:

    Beautiful post, BenJ. You couldn’t have said it any better.

    July 9, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Thanks J, means a lot coming from you.

      July 10, 2015
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  10. Angie said:

    Wow! You really poured your heart out on this topic. Kudos

    July 9, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Chaaarrrlllee, it has been in my inside saaaaahhh, lol, thanks for writing.

      July 10, 2015
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  11. Kwame said:

    Amen! Benji!

    July 9, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      And Amen again.

      July 10, 2015
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