Unsubscribe Me From Goldinwords. Now!

The first time I got that request, well it wasn’t that harsh, but it might as well have been because I was shattered. I stared at Gmail like I’d just caught it cheating on my best friend.

“Why?” I imagined, “Why would anyone want to be unsubscribed from Goldinwords? This small small thing we’re doing that it’s starting to pick up noorr, you want to be unsubscribed. Oooo, Ghana people!”

So I went back to the most recent post to check if I’d betrayed someone who could be a mutual friend. Was it too steamy? Was it offensive in anyway? Did I not speak enough Twi? I mean what, where, why would this guy just want to jump ship like that?!! So well after a few hours I collected myself and replied to say I was about to do as requested. I almost added, “But ma-guy is it by force? Did I hold your hand and force you to sign up? Why must I suffer for your commitment issues?” Lol, I didn’t, but thankfully so.

It was a very difficult thing because one of my personal fears, the thing I dread the most is being a bother. I dread being the guy you have to put up with. I dread it so much I kind of understood Jonah in a completely different way. I mean seriously God, if these undeserving Ninevites were going to act like I was the problem, why bother?! Puh-lease!

So that ‘unsubscribe me’ mail just stabbed me hard because it meant I had become so much of a bother that some breda couldn’t put up with me anymore. But ah well, I did anyway and in that low state a couple of emails and several comments came through for that very same post! I mean these positive ones were all packed with energy and kindness that it numbed the effect of that one departure.

Trusting GodOver the years, I’ve had about a dozen more of such requests, but you know what? For each one that leaves, 50 come in. In time, my wiser self jumped to the rescue and scolded me “What’s wrong with you Ben?! You’re going to let the personal decision of a couple of people hold hostage the much larger crowd? Besides who told you this is for everybody? I can’t believe you cared so much about pleasing everyone. How can you manage that and still be true to God?”

I just sat there drawing in the sand like Jesus did when the crowd threatened to stone the adulterous woman. Only this time, my one-man crowd was hurling a truck of stones.

“So one guy wants to go so you’re morose? (giggles) Well you better brace up because more people are going to want to leave. You will write things that will seem stupid to some, too playful, immature and an attack on their secret insecurities. They will walk out on you like a jail bird. You better get ready. And not just with Goldinwords, people are going to walk out of your life and you better expect it because people are always getting off at bus stops.

Smart thing to do is never get your eyes off the big picture. Realize that if only one person in this entire universe finds value in what you do, that’s super awesome! I mean heaven is a much much much bigger deal than you Ben, but see the childish excitement that rushes through when even one sinner repents. So you better get with the program mister!”

My face was a sssttuuuupppiiidddd and I tried swallowing saliva that wasn’t there. But this realization totally reoriented me. The same way I’d rather have 25 years of pure marital bliss than 40 years of ‘Oooo Gaaaaaddd,  can this woman really bee myyy rriiibb?!’, is the same way I’d rather have 100 genuine, passionate community size, than a 10,000 one with people scowling anytime a Goldinwords notification comes through. So these days I’m so quick to honor ‘Unsubscribe me’ requests. I mean you’re not done saying thank you and I already said bye. No hard feelings, it’s just that life’s too short to read all those ‘Terms & Conditions’.

That’s why there are no Goldinwords page advertisements on Facebook. Only posts are promoted, so the people who end up liking the page are spillovers from those who really like the post. And I think you should employ that mentality in your life too.

I mean if someone wants to take a walk, show them the exit with the best views. If someone wants to go that badly, make it easy for them, because the last thing you need is some disgruntled unpleasable person masquerading as a loyal friend because you’ve made it clear you cant stand breakups. Like seriously? You cant be that pathetic (see me oo, (snickering))! Why do you act like you’ve seen this movie before when you’re only now living it. The guy who wrote the script says “I know the plans I have for you, plans of good and not evil.” So clearly if this person wants to leave so badly, swipe left!

Don’t get me wrong, fight for what deserves fighting for, but be wise enough to tell the difference. Because letting a bad sore fester is welcoming an amputation. Let it go before it saps the life out of you.

On an equally serious note if you’re reading this and want to be unsubscribed from e-mail subscriptions…(long pause) #sobs, PLEASE NOOOOO!!! DOONNNNTTT GOOOOOO! Let’s work this oooouuuut. I promise to add more joooookkes. Lol. I lie. But please be real with me. I ‘d hate to have you when you so don’t want this.

So yeah, all I’m saying is; learn to be graceful about letting go of the people who must go. Then be highly expectant of their replacement. Because if for nothing at all, we serve a God who can use an egg to crack a palm kernel just to spite a stone. For sheege. Peace out!

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27 Comments

  1. Barbielove said:

    hehhehehhehe. i love the shegee part. I was like sagaa na 3y3 wo. U are an amazing dude

    April 28, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      And you are amazing too Barbie. Gosh I could say that name saah. btw you know ‘Ken’ rhymes with Ben right? 🙂

      April 29, 2015
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  2. Elorm said:

    Ok, first of all, who does that? Asking to be unsuscribed from here. Ashok sef.
    Anyways, im addi ng my voice…”Let I t gooooooooooo…..let it go…..”

    March 30, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      I knooowwww E, who does that??!!! lol, stop with Frozen already.

      April 2, 2015
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  3. Naomi said:

    lol…standing ovation for this post!!! If you would employ me anka i would to the unsubscribe thingy for you without charge kraa….life is too short to hold on to peeps who don’t see the light in anything!1

    March 30, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      I couldnt agree more Naomi. You’re in the shpirit!!! lol

      April 2, 2015
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  4. abena said:

    But i can’t find the unsubscribe button oo….sike, i kid

    March 29, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      #HandOnChest Whew!Dont shaa me body like that again!

      March 30, 2015
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  5. dede said:

    They wanna leave?… oya, let ’em go. Some of just can’t have enuf of ur writings. I will be here and reliking ur posts a thousand times over(only if it were possible). Ben, God help you so you keep doing what you do on a larger scale. God bless u for inspiring me everytime.

    March 28, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Thhhaaaatttt’ss the shpirit!!My feet under is even ticklish now. Thanks D, you rock!

      March 30, 2015
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  6. Kwame said:

    ” letting a bad sore fester is welcoming an amputation”….. hahaha
    Aoooo Ben, obaaaa gb3 mi eeeeh!!! (see i’m even exclaiming in my non-existent Ga!)
    excellent piece, great advice….. #thumbsup

    March 28, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Lol. But Kwame, se it’s true? I mean if it’s gotten you to explore Ga paaaaah de, then it’s very very true.

      March 30, 2015
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  7. Amanda said:

    Punch lines. I love everything up there. I shock for those who have been unsubscribing waa. But that’s life anyway. As for me I’m going nowhere. This blog is where I get most of my inspiration from.

    March 27, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Ooooo Mandy ena woo ka no sei? they dont know good things, lol. But you here, reading your nyce nyce comments, makes me so oblivious. You rock!

      March 30, 2015
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  8. Emily said:

    ” Because if for nothing at all, we serve a God who can use an egg to crack a palm kernel just to spite a stone. For sheege. ” ……….. For sheeeeeege, lmho.
    When God closes a door, don’t look so intently at it that, you absolutely refuse to see the wide-opened windows with amazing views. Let go and Let God.
    I’ll be sure to be singing along with Elsa saaaa, thanks Eunice….lol!

    March 27, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Word! I’m seeing wider-than-doors windows right now Em. You said it right! 🙂

      March 30, 2015
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  9. Rammy said:

    Lol….abi u kno dada….lol…ikr

    March 27, 2015
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  10. Rammy said:

    LETTING A BAD SORE FESTER IS WELCOMING AN AMPUTATION …. Strait up!… Bam!…. Let Go…Let God…..im sooo sticking to u lyk glue….lol

    March 27, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Eeeeiiii brofo Rammy. Only you will like the intricate brofo part. Lol, but that’s why we’re like that; 2 peas in a pod. 😉

      March 27, 2015
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  11. dromo said:

    On an equally serious note if you’re reading this and want to be unsubscribed from e-mail subscriptions…(long pause) #sobs, PLEASE NOOOOO!!! DOONNNNTTT GOOOOOO! Let’s work this oooouuuut. I promise to add more joooookkes
    favourite part…

    March 27, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Ssshhuuuwe! No way I was going to be all tough and indifferent about that. Certainly wont want you going anywhere D.

      March 27, 2015
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  12. Eunice said:

    We can’t please everyone no matter how we hard we try (a lot of energy out of us) Like Elsa in frozen says “let it goooo, let it goooo”

    March 27, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Congratulations Eunice. Now you’ve pressed ‘Play’ in my head and the snowy song wont stop playing aaaaanh till tomorrow. Se you are happy?

      March 27, 2015
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  13. Kwame Pocho said:

    You patronising villain: weaving your whim into our minds to bind our hooks to your blog. Now if we had plans of diverting course from your blog we have been totally hoodwinked and made bound to you! Well I am not here to complain: just here to pat a pal on the back. Good sailing my brother.

    March 27, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      How can brofo be sooo nice! Even if you werent giving me ‘fans’ this brofo is nice enough to make me giggle. And if you asked to be unsubscribed with this kind of brofo, o! I’ll do it for you and your ancestors with no bad blood. lol. Thanks Kwame, you know I look up to you.
      PS: Are you a prophet? You are sharp papa!

      March 27, 2015
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  14. Rotfl!! Ghana people? Really? Ever-dramatic Ben!

    March 27, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Seeeee tthhiiisss black ppoottt! But you Keni, you’re the G.A.S.T manual for all us aspiring dramatists. I lie?

      March 27, 2015
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