Lately, I’ve been thinking; what drives a man to jump into the Volta Lake or gets a woman to see no point in living? Truth is we all get depressed from time to time. For example I get so worked up when the mechanic is doing ‘try your luck’ with my car. Or when I do my best on a project and client thinks it’s rubbish, it gets under my skin! So depression dier, we all get a pill of it from time to time. The question –though- is, what drives some people to drown beneath it? Why do some people never recover from a depressing situation? The answer just came to me, and see who I’m telling first
Say your whole life, you dreamed of owning your own grass cutter farm. I mean anytime you went to a chop bar and your soup came with Akrantie, you didn’t know whether to eat it or pose with it for a picture, or blend it into juice or turn it into some kind of jam. Like, Akrantie just filled you with such inspiration, such energy; to the point where everything you did was to enable you own an Akrantie farm eventually. Just imagining it had some bleaching effect on you.
Then you wake up one morning and everyone is going on and on about Ebola. The bloody WHO launches a campaign against the consumption of all bush meats. Right next to the pictures of bats are grass cutters! Of all the creatures, of all the likely Ebola carriers, what business do they have implicating your grass cutters.
Suddenly no one wants grass cutters anymore, your favorite chop bar isn’t serving it because the sight of it scares their patrons. No one wants anything to do with your dream business, and then suddenly, everything quickly loses meaning to you. It all doesn’t seem worth it anymore. What’s the point in living now? What’s the meaning of life without grass cutter? Maybe it’s just better if you throw in the towel and just give it all up, then it becomes a spiral decline that ends six feet under.
See, thing is we all have our ‘grass cutters’; that thing we’re living for. When it’s snatched from us, life loses meaning and we’re thrown in desolation. Even the strongest of us is just one tragedy from fatal depression if the thing we cherished the most is snatched.
That’s why it’s crucial to take a good look at what or who you’re living for. Many times you don’t realize it till she’s gone, and you see that you’d been living your whole life for her, and everything you were revolved around him. Now that they’re gone, what’s the point?
Your expert knowledge of Forex and your ability to predict the Cedi’s tantrums absolve you from just a few things. You can’t rely on the most comprehensive insurance policy to be indemnified from every casualty. Why? Because if even heaven and earth shall pass away, really can your insurance and expertise prevent an inevitable loss?
That’s why peace floods in when you find meaning in God; the solid rock, the firm anchor that can’t be moved. If the person you end up dating is the spillover of your commitment to God, they ain’t gonna go nowhere! Even if they did, your world won’t be shattered because they never were it; it had always been God. They cant take from you what they never were; your world.
So whenever something happens and your life seems to come to a standstill, it’s a wake-up call to relook at whom you’d been living for. Personally I get frightened when someone’s disappointment disrupts my whole day. I wonder, “When did I give her that much power? Gosh! God, forgive me.”
That’s not to say be unmoved or totally unaffected by anything –that’s impossible. But integrate your life so completely with God that it’s only His abandonment of you that will crumble you. Plus, since even whilst you were still a stinking sinner he still loved you, he certainly isn’t going anywhere now that you’re starting to smell better.
I figure that’s how Job managed to not curse God when he lost everything. Somehow he must have understood that all things were working together for his good. That God wont allow aaalll that wahala for nothing. That the departure of his worldly wealth was not the indicator of God’s departure from his life. In Him is it all, and that understanding will save you from the likelihood of ever sinking under depression of contemplating suicide. He’s the only insurance policy you really need.
So do some emergency audit right now. Be honest with yourself; the thing that matters most to you, the thing that will break you to pieces if you lost, does it have a heavenly address or he’s a few minute’s drive from Agbogba last stop? If it’s not the former, ma guy, you’re walking on thin ice. Let’s continue to do the saaaamme things we’re doing for the things we love, only let’s direct it at God and see if we wont experience the peace that surpasses all understanding.
In the end a God business will outlive everything; even a grasscutter business
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