The Lust Masquerade.

A few days ago (for that’s how it feels like), you had to eavesdrop on the conversation of a bunch of drunk horny unmarried men to hear about sex. You had to get the corner booth of an obscure internet café a bus-ride from your town close to midnight to feel ‘safe’ enough to visit a porn website. You had to get stranded in town to chance upon a prostitute at Circle or the Cantonments roundabout. You could freely use dictionary words like ‘come’, ‘penetrate’ ‘blue’ ‘balls’ ‘dirty’ ‘eat’ ‘prick’ ‘cock’ doggy’ ‘pussy’ and ‘wet’ without the worry of being misunderstood. Those were the good old days (relatively).

Now it is in the jokes we laugh at, in the songs we dance to, in the interesting chats we have, in the good movies we watch, in the statuses we update. It’s in the lifestyles of our mentors, in our favorite books, on billboards and banners. Tell me, what on earth is a horny-looking half-naked curvaceous woman doing on a fruit juice billboard? An active sex life has become a badge of honor, an indication of ‘whassupness’, of being contemporary.

Eeiii these people are bad o! Lemme see if they'll stop :-P
Eeiii these people are bad o! Lemme see if they’ll stop :-P

Sexual innuendos and subtleties have become the tenets of exciting memorable conversations. Friends-with-benefits is fast becoming in vogue. The detachment of emotional obligations from making out has made sleeping around and kissing the person behind door number ummnn…3! as meaningless as faithless Christianity.

The thing that so easily corrupts our spirits is now hidden in plain sight, is silently ghetto blastering, has gotten bolder than a spoilt rich kid with a feeling of entitlement. Our white garments are so stained, but we’ve rationalized them into fashionable polka dot attires, so that our consciences are free. That’s whassup.

We’ve imbibed, consumed, assimilated, tolerated and condoned lustful stuff so much so that we’ve been socialized to see it as normal. So what’s the big deal with a girl kissing another? Is it a boss sleeping with his secretary that you haven’t seen before? Are you serious? You haven’t ever watched a sex clip? What’ve you been watching, cartoon network?

We’ve normalized it to the point where we even analyze scripture from compromised perspectives. Take the Garden of Eden story for example, some boys boys were having a ‘Bible study’ about it and guy 1 says to the rest “I don’t get Adam you know, how could he have chosen apples over nipples? If I was he, mankind would never have fallen!”

The chains that we can’t see, have us bound tightest. The fact that we have eyes but cant see the magnitude of the mud we’re swimming in makes us even more fitting members of the blind Society. The seductive intrigue of a fling and its leanings are the signs of a fast-depleting moral fiber.

In the strictest sense of the words purity and righteousness, we’re rubbish. I know because when I look around in this messy bin, I see you and just about all our friends. And you know why our situation is more saddening? It’s because we know, we know that if we abide in His word, the things of the world will not appeal to us. We know that when we have on the full amour of God, we’re immune to carnal infections. But in spite of all this knowledge, we’re treating the pearls of life and His grace like pigs would. C’est bon?non!

What Now?!

We’ve got to get our acts together people, this broad road is confusing us with the narrow one. Cant you see its too darn comfortable? Lust is masquerading as a harmless joke, as a stringless fling, as emotionless sex, as naughty status updates, as short sex scenes in otherwise good movies, as modern disses insults. Further down this road is the inevitable lowering of standards and compromising of principles, culminating in the truncation of an erstwhile fruitful walk with the Holy Spirit. A sad end to such a promising story.

Don’t you see that when you do wrong you don’t feel like you have the moral right to correct another? Maybe a word of caution could have returned him to his senses, saved his life, but you’re so tangled up in your lust-induced mess that you give him a ‘thumbs–up’ for something he should be scolded for.

So since we know what’s right, what’s the way out? Can we decide not to laugh at sex jokes? Can we in fact skip it altogether when we see where it’s heading? Can we return to ‘Wo y3 papa?’ Are you correct? And leave the ‘Fucks’ and ‘Screw yous’ alone? Can we take some time to just look at ourselves through God’s eyes? You know, the way He says we’re part of a royal priesthood, a chosen generation, a peculiar people, called and sanctified by His blood, set apart for greater works, lights of the world and salt of the earth, empowered to triumph over snakes and scorpions (both literally and metaphorically), can we do that?

Can we just conduct reality checks from time to time and see if we’re living by our true identities or by some cheaper, dirtier version of it? Maybe if we do, we’ll develop a sense of urgency that will drive us from the thief of life to the source of it. Will you give it a shot?

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20 Comments

  1. Abdul-Haqq said:

    Interesting piece

    August 19, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Thank you Abdul.

      August 20, 2015
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  2. Barbielove said:

    I’m gonna live the God way. No turning back. Thank You Ben

    May 5, 2015
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  3. maame said:

    Thank you for this message.A lot of us need to realize that what is wrong is wrong. We have to stop following the world.

    February 4, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Yess yess Maame, we must. We should.

      February 5, 2015
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  4. naa teiko said:

    This post is on point…you can’t even use certain words without them being given a ‘dirty’ meaning….bless you brother..

    February 3, 2015
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  5. Yaa said:

    Hmmm. You are so right. But the thing is when you point it out you’ll be called uptight and told to get off your moral highhorse. That we’ve gleefully accepted these things when me know it’s wrong. No one likes to be spoken to about immorality anymore. Pleasing our sensual desires has become are driving force. Some even use evolutionary psychology to justify it, meanwhile we’re supposedly sanctified. Hmmm. What can we do? It’s easy to fall for such things when it’s seen as “normal”. The new normal someone said. Till we put doing right before our selfish pleasure nothing will change

    February 1, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Exactement Yaa! the highway to ‘party pooper’ status is to speak to speak about immorality. What do we do?

      February 5, 2015
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  6. JOG said:

    Your words have really touched the very core of my being.

    January 31, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      You’ve said the exact thing I asked God to make this post do. God bless you! Your comment is precious 🙂

      February 5, 2015
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  7. BenJ said:

    I think we can oo Maame. Definitely not in our own might, grace will make it possible.

    January 31, 2015
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  8. Maame Fosua said:

    The question here is Can you & I give it a shot? Can we try? We must not miss that. When you do your little in your corner & I do likewise, this post will indeed be great.

    January 31, 2015
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  9. Eunice said:

    Chinua Achebe was certainly right, things have indeed fallen apart but there’s more hope. We’ve got to stand out.

    January 31, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      And out we shall stand Eunice; one right decision at a time. More vim! 🙂

      January 31, 2015
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  10. Joseyphina said:

    Very well said, Ben. The new ‘normal’of our generation is becoming appalling. And as lights of the world, if we don’t stand up and shine out the darkness, we’ll all be consumed by it.

    January 30, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      I’d hate to be consumed by any kind of darkness J, we should do all we can to redefine the ‘new normal’, in our own small ways.

      January 31, 2015
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  11. Aseda said:

    great piece. and I like the humour too. ” …I know because when I
    look around in this messy bin, I see
    you and just about all our friends.”
    u couldn’t have said it any better.

    January 30, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Lol, ikr. We’re all in the struggle together. All about grace.

      January 31, 2015
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  12. Melfa said:

    Hmmmm… Its becoming too much these days… Every social media you get on to, all you see is ‘bitch’, ‘asshole’, ‘fuck’ and the likes… Its saddens my heart when i see the youth of nowadays using such profane words… Lets all pray for this generation… Great piece BenJ…!!!

    January 30, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      I’m with you on that Melfa. It’s impossible to ignore anymore.

      January 31, 2015
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