Hard Guys Praying For Good Wives. [Rated]

I used to think praying about marriage was as much a preserve for girls as pregnancy is. I couldn’t imagine a real hunk on his knees praying to God about his future wife and kids. That was downright spiritual gayism! I mean who does that, right? Just go through as many chics as you can, settle with one at the time you feel you want to marry in as much the same way as you choose a chair in a ‘Musical Chairs’ game, and still keep it going with the mistresses. Or, if you were a better man than that, just make enough money and choose the one you had the best sex with, right?

Or, or, or, just send word to your village for a fine girl to be made available to you and just rule your house like the overlord you are right? Who wants to be challenged in his house! You want to be served. You want to summon a woman, issue orders and have it executed with no protest, because after all, you’re the man right? The harrdddest guy. Lol. Boyyyyy have times changed! Wait, I don’t think it’s time that’s changed, rather sensibility has settled in fully.

I’ve always maintained that good women are the dreams of dolu good guys and the desired destinations of smart bad boys. I’ve never been more convinced of that than now.

You see growing up does this thing where it puts things in clear perspective. It’s not so much who has the fairest complexion; it’s who will be the fairest mother. It’s not so much who knows the choicest restaurant; it’s who makes the meals worth coming home to. It’s not so much who talks dirtiest, it’s who can speak faith into you when trials toss you about. It’s not so much who drools over the size of things that hang on you, it’s who sees the potential in the inside of you and wont stop till it’s manifested into the best man you can be. It’s not so much about who can wake you up with a ‘BJ’, it is about who you’ll wake up at dawn to find praying in tongues.

It’s not so much about who worships you and is miserable without you, it’s who can tactfully rouse you from your egotistic stupidity before it reduces you to a fraction of the man you could be. It’s not so much about who all the boys want to be with, it’s who God is with and will speak through to you. Sooner than later, most boys realize this and freak out about its implications.

goldinwordsBoys realize how serious a business marriage is. They see how futile all their life’s work will be with the wrong woman. They dread making a decision to be with a woman who’ll soon become the reason they prefer to sleep in the office. They realize that this wife business could possibly lead them to contemplate suicide. They see the emptiness in the lives of the married hard guys they envied. They see those ex-alpha males try to cover up their misery. They observe how the indifference and discouragement of those hottt wives make these once-promising hard guys wilt and wither. Then they realize that whilst they have time, they MUST find a good woman. Then they find the most powerful, zealous church to attend.

Now hard guys spotting fine girls at a prayer meeting be like “shabala shabala shabala aaahh! Mmmhhmmmhh this vessel is tooo fiiinee eeehhh! Let her be, let her be, let her be the one eeehh!” Then they spot a ring on her finger and be like “Gaaaad, this must be just fashion now. Faada, let that be for just fashionnn! I command it!!” Meanwhile, what are the good guys supposed to do, huh? You know I don’t doubt that when a bad boy turns to Jesus, the hosts of heaven celebrate, but guess who suffers? The dolu spirito who hasn’t been able to tell sister Yvonne that her absence during Solomon’s era explains why he had to go through so many women.

Gosh fam, we cant joke about who we settle with anymore. This post is biased towards guys, but women are also in desperate need of good men. It’s just that the hard guy’s realization is so much more drastic and kinda funny.

Guys, you know what I think? I think we sleep away half the women who could have been great wives. When ‘peg’ enters ‘hole’ bliss and cum is just what comes first and ends quickly. The deed opens up doors to the principalities the Bible tells us we’re fighting against. So later when she becomes too problematic and ‘some way’ and ‘irreconcilable differences’ emerge, we should realize that we aren’t fighting against flesh and blood, but the creation of our fornication. We’re fighting the things we actually opened her up to when we opened her legs. Now you’re leaving her for who to take? Cammon go for your thing worhorworhor!

The best way to good wives is to honor God when she becomes vulnerable to you. If we place that over the urge to fulfill an immediate sensual need, we will end up with good marriages. We ‘spit’ in our foods and walk away when it starts to react, and eventually almost everyone ends up with food some other guy has tainted in a way.

So it may be too late to undo the harm we’ve done in the past, but let’s talk to those guys who look up to us and develop their understanding of the status quo from our actions. Let’s be men about it and admit openly the things we did wrong, the things we shouldn’t have done and lets recognize how pointless it is to work hard and make money if we’re going to end up with the wrong woman. As we seek her, let’s seek a better us so she’d feel undeserving to have us. And when you find her, saturate all the love and affection you’ll have spread over a dozen flings into this one virtuous woman. And also, as we do so let’s be mindful of the ‘spirito bredas’ who planted the seeds and watered the garden from which we now harvest our mangoes. God bless!

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39 Comments

  1. Adjah-Bryte said:

    I’m very glad I found this website a month ago. I don’t ever know how I came across it. Divine intervention, certainly.

    Nicely written, Ben. The issue is, these ‘Spirito Bredas’ also pray just like the hard guys and even more; but ‘ano no mm) nnoum’ (mouth is unable to play music), if you get what I mean. More Grace lot loose the PoP, ‘cos it’s costing some a lot.

    More Grace to keep writing to help us do more. This is Godsend. God bless you!

    April 22, 2016
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    • BenJ said:

      rotfl! lol, the nnuom just doesnt come! True mome o. Only grace can help. I’m really glad you found this website too, cant wait to read more from you.

      April 22, 2016
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  2. Naa Morkor said:

    Haha that’s so unfair to the ‘spiritos bredas’ though! Lol

    August 10, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      I knnooowwwww, but c’est la vie. Spiritos have to add more knowledge and discernment to their loving, or?

      August 10, 2015
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  3. Kjoe said:

    most interesting directional map i’ve ever com across. i bow, ma boss.

    June 16, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      We both do K, to God’s grace. Been too long. Glad you know how to make up so.

      June 22, 2015
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  4. Naa Oyoe said:

    So I just stumbled on your website while searching for news artcles..lol…and I must say even though i get bored easily at long reads yours is an EXCEPTION!!
    And the line that says: “We’re fighting the things we actually opened her up to when we opened her legs. Now you’re leaving her for who to take? Cammon go for your thing worhorworhor”!
    funny but so true meeehn!
    tnx for bringing these important yet overlooked issues to light and explaining it in the simplest form Ben..:)..Stay Blessed

    April 20, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Wasnt a coincidence Naa, wasnt a coincidence at all. Do you know how long I’d been saying “Faaddaaa, let Naa come. Let her stumble this waayy. Let it haaapppin!” So you see, it was all a plan. So glad you’re here now. Dont be quiet 🙂

      April 20, 2015
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  5. Nife said:

    Awesome, Ben… i’ve also had a lotta things put in clear perspective in recent times. it’s such a rude awakening eeeh? but wayyy better to be enlightened than living in ignorance, no?

    March 18, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Couldnt agree more. I love the way we’re talking, from one thing to the other. We should do so more often, no? 🙂

      March 18, 2015
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  6. Kofi said:

    ”You see growing up does this thing where it puts
    things in clear perspective.”
    wo y3 bossu wati…i’ve been trying to find these words for weeks!! 🙂

    February 9, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Chaarrle, feels good to know it’s not just me trying to word those thoughts, but e go be. More grace!

      February 11, 2015
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  7. Maame Fosua said:

    Is this it? Great! Can relate.

    January 21, 2015
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  8. Ama said:

    Oh this has been my best article yet in 2015. Too accurate! As the hard guys pray for good wives , may they end up with the same ones they messed up along the way. Together they can fix a better future. Second chances to right the wrong always exist.

    January 18, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Hahahahaha, amen to that Ama. But I doubt we’ll get many supporters on this prayer. So many people want to start afresh it’s funny.

      January 19, 2015
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  9. Ijeeee-MRB said:

    PS: I beg to differ on this one though : “It’s not so much about who can wake you up with a ‘BJ’, it is about who you’ll wake up at dawn to find praying in tongues. ”

    Dude come on, there are 7 days in a week. Allow a lady to be Caro on Friday & Saturday morning and Ada with MOGPA on full blast every other dawn …. Hehe

    January 18, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      ROTFL!!!! hahahahahahaha. You totally cracked me up Ijee. But you’re right, even I will love me some Friday and Saturday Caro and Ada. I’m so happy you wrote!!It’s so rare 🙂

      January 19, 2015
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  10. Ijeeee-MRB said:

    You outdid yourself this time. Great great read- very very well done!

    January 18, 2015
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  11. Hetty said:

    yaaaayyyy God bless u Ben always looking forward to see a new post from you amongst my newsfeed always on point …….more grace

    January 18, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Mooorrrreee grace Hetty. That’s what makes all the difference. Please pray me more wae 🙂

      January 19, 2015
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  12. Efua said:

    Deep, very profound, thought provoking. What else? Errrm, raw, straight to the point and I love it! Bless you Ben.

    January 17, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Eheeeh, se you remember me telling you I’d write about it? Something good must come out of all this. Sad stories cant continue.

      January 17, 2015
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  13. Naa said:

    Lol! That was a great piece….
    “As we seek her, let’s seek a better us so she’d feel undeserving to have us.”
    I am happy to say for the first time in my life, such a Guy has finally found me.
    Doubly blessed because he falls in the “spiritual breda” category.

    January 17, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Wwwoooowwwww, you go gurll!! lol, truly, that’s an awesome best case scenario. My happiness for you is tangible. May your good fortunes infect all those around you, amen!

      January 17, 2015
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  14. naomi said:

    bless you for this.

    January 17, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      And you more!…for writing.

      January 17, 2015
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  15. Dede said:

    Awwww, i luv this post Ben. 🙂

    January 17, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      And I luv more that you luv it Dee, you rock!

      January 17, 2015
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  16. Elorm said:

    The spirito bredas though…. they should just bind and cast any principalities responsible for their trismus (lock jaw) na 3ny3 kraaaaa

    January 16, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Tell em Class prefect, tell em! lol, but if you keep using such trismustic terms, can you blame us for taking our times a little too long? lol

      January 17, 2015
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  17. Shirley said:

    Great Piece, Ben . Keep spilling the truth though it’s bitter sometimes.

    January 16, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Shhirrlllyyyyyyy!! (Can you see the excitement in that?!) lol, but I guess the bitter pills usually work faster, or?

      January 17, 2015
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  18. solo blay said:

    i’ m even lost for words. you jxt spilled it out like nobody’s business. kudos my guy

    January 16, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Thanks bro, it is what it is or? I guess we had to face the facts eventually.

      January 17, 2015
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  19. belinda said:

    Can I employ you?
    Just beautiful…….speechless!

    January 16, 2015
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    • Dede said:

      Errrm, u sure u can pay him?

      January 17, 2015
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    • BenJ said:

      Are we talking 6 figures, B? 🙂

      January 17, 2015
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  20. Debbie said:

    beautiful piece

    January 16, 2015
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